I believe, many years ago, when I was still with the individual with whom I was in “Training” and we attended one of your really cool weekly classes, there was some discussion that included anecdotes about this very subject!

If that is a trick of my memory and I am misremembering, I certainly stand corrected on that particular count! And furthermore, I would be a somewhat surprised to learn that your curiosity alone would leave you in a position of never checking out the other side of the game, to some extent.

I do know that you tend to not engage in play about which you do not have a high degree of proficiency (i.e, your not performing suspension bondage because your proficiency with sail boats casts most suspension bondage in a dubious light).

But more to the point, we’ve never negotiated anything beyond self-contained scenes, and this isn’t the same, for me, as doing the “Pre-relationship shuffle”. The people with whom I have,for better or worse (and still to date with no long-term &^%$ luck, dammit!) engaged in ongoing power exchange relationships have had that particular exposure, and that was something that I felt was important to me!

xoxo

Mo