We are all unique, with our own subtle variations of likes, dislikes, needs and desires. The categories we create to describe and make sense of human behaviour can only ever be approximations. Define the categories too broadly and they would be of no use at all, define them too narrowly and you would end up with one category specific to each human on the planet.

I am sure that in the complex world of BDSM we would be mocked for not doing it properly because the collar comes off at the bedroom door, or because I ask permission before I tie My Beloved, or smack her. By our own definitions, however, we are doing it exactly right because it is in that way we find pleasure and fulfilment in each other.
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