Comments on: Don’t let it slide. http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/dont-let-it-slide/ it ain't just the hair that's kinky Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:41:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sascha http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/dont-let-it-slide/comment-page-1/#comment-7328 Sascha Sun, 11 Oct 2009 17:43:18 +0000 http://www.mollena.com/?p=4806#comment-7328 I have to stand up and cheer for this post. It's true that unless a bottom is upfront with his or her limits, and models good behavior for the douchebag top, the douchebag top is guaranteed to stay that way. There is no chance for that top to develop any sort of learning curve. Lord knows it's fucking hard to be that honest. Truth be told, there are times in my life when I wish I were better at being more assertive and upfront with my own boundaries. So I guess the learning curve goes both ways. .-= Sascha´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was...<a href="http://howmyotherhalflives.wordpress.com/2009/09/28/forgiveness/" rel="nofollow">Forgiveness</a> =-. I have to stand up and cheer for this post. It’s true that unless a bottom is upfront with his or her limits, and models good behavior for the douchebag top, the douchebag top is guaranteed to stay that way. There is no chance for that top to develop any sort of learning curve.

Lord knows it’s fucking hard to be that honest. Truth be told, there are times in my life when I wish I were better at being more assertive and upfront with my own boundaries.

So I guess the learning curve goes both ways.
.-= Sascha´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was…Forgiveness =-.

]]> By: mollena http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/dont-let-it-slide/comment-page-1/#comment-7316 mollena Fri, 09 Oct 2009 18:55:51 +0000 http://www.mollena.com/?p=4806#comment-7316 Heya Ten :-) You have my complete and total sympathy AND empathy, sweetie, on many levels. Some lessons are fastballs to the face, and you just gotta take 'em and pick yourself back up. Having done that MANY times, I can say it is one of those "Character Building" things that just sucks balls. love Mo Heya Ten :-)

You have my complete and total sympathy AND empathy, sweetie, on many levels.

Some lessons are fastballs to the face, and you just gotta take ‘em and pick yourself back up.

Having done that MANY times, I can say it is one of those “Character Building” things that just sucks balls.

love

Mo

]]> By: mollena http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/dont-let-it-slide/comment-page-1/#comment-7315 mollena Fri, 09 Oct 2009 18:53:06 +0000 http://www.mollena.com/?p=4806#comment-7315 And thank you for reading! It is very easy to do nothing and very hard to undo what doing nothing can do. The few regrets I have in my life revolve around my failure to stand up for myself or to stand down those who would treat me poorly. I strive to never repeat those moments. xoxo Mo .-= mollena´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was...<a href="http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/a-moment-of-silence/" rel="nofollow">A Moment of Silence…</a> =-. And thank you for reading! It is very easy to do nothing and very hard to undo what doing nothing can do.

The few regrets I have in my life revolve around my failure to stand up for myself or to stand down those who would treat me poorly. I strive to never repeat those moments.

xoxo

Mo
.-= mollena´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was…A Moment of Silence… =-.

]]> By: Bad Bad Girl http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/dont-let-it-slide/comment-page-1/#comment-7306 Bad Bad Girl Wed, 07 Oct 2009 02:00:51 +0000 http://www.mollena.com/?p=4806#comment-7306 This is a fantastic post. I am so guilty of this, and not always in a BDSM sense, but just in person relationships/ casual sex. I want to scream "I DIDN'T CONSENT TO BEING TREATED THIS WAY!!!" But I don't- I let it slide. I will try to keep this in mind. Thank you, Mo, .-= Bad Bad Girl´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was...<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/bbgblog/ybPo/~3/Q2HLwWEcX6o/" rel="nofollow">shameful</a> =-. This is a fantastic post. I am so guilty of this, and not always in a BDSM sense, but just in person relationships/ casual sex. I want to scream “I DIDN’T CONSENT TO BEING TREATED THIS WAY!!!” But I don’t- I let it slide.

I will try to keep this in mind. Thank you, Mo,
.-= Bad Bad Girl´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was…shameful =-.

]]> By: Ten http://www.mollena.com/2009/10/dont-let-it-slide/comment-page-1/#comment-7304 Ten Tue, 06 Oct 2009 23:16:25 +0000 http://www.mollena.com/?p=4806#comment-7304 I have to agree with this post, having experienced a similar situation in which I did not immediately nip a case of sexual harassment in the bud at my new job. I eventually did, after having an episode of mass douchebaggery myself and drinking myself into oblivion to avoid dealing with it. This led to a.) sobriety for at least 30 days and b.) coming clean at my job. I have to say, the gentleman has been surprisingly understanding. He understands he crossed the line and that I hadn't said anything because I was anxious/conflicted about how to approach it. He was only aggravated because I "let it slide". Lesson learned. I have to agree with this post, having experienced a similar situation in which I did not immediately nip a case of sexual harassment in the bud at my new job. I eventually did, after having an episode of mass douchebaggery myself and drinking myself into oblivion to avoid dealing with it. This led to a.) sobriety for at least 30 days and b.) coming clean at my job.

I have to say, the gentleman has been surprisingly understanding. He understands he crossed the line and that I hadn’t said anything because I was anxious/conflicted about how to approach it. He was only aggravated because I “let it slide”. Lesson learned.

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