I received this solicitation on a BDSM dating site.

And I quote….

Master[REDACTED]
Age: 37
Gender: Man
Location: New Hampshire, United States
Message: Hi babe I like what you have to say in your profile sugar LOL I’m a Dom looking for a slave whore to do what ever I want her to do LOL it looks like you are what I’m looking for honey but you’d have to move I live in NH but I’m willing

I experienced a range of emotions.  Sadness, Rage. Shock and awe. Disgust. Despair. The desire for a cupcake to make the pain go away.

So, of course, I sent it to everyone  I know.

inspiring the following exchange with me and my WebMaster.

void: but could you deal with a dom with a thick Naw Hamshar accent?

Mollena: I can’t deal with ANYONE who EVER thinks it is ok to approach a slave with that language.

Mollena: I hate him so much.

void: Hi baab  I like wha’ ya ha’e to say in ya profile shuga  LOL I’m a Dom lookin fah a slave whoore to do wha’ eva I wan’ hah todo  LOL it looks like ya what I’m lookin fah honey  but ya’d ha’e to move I live in N’Hampshah  but I’m willin”

void: I mean, really

void: what kind of a dom uses emoticons?

Mollena: are you trying to make me cry?!

Mollena: red, dude

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From Formspring…

Q: When a relationship ends, what is the best approach for moving on and regaining self, things that you lost while in that relationship?

A: This is so mutable.

(Which is OK. Gemini’s a mutable sign. I’m good)

The circumstances of the relationship have EVERYTHING to do with the breakup.

• How long was the relationship?
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Etc etc  etc.

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Wondering, poly-minded people, from your experience, how you handle this situation!

Poly person #1 asks you to hook up / get down. You’re cool with it, and it just so happens you know  / are friends with / are otherwise cool with their partner, PolyPerson #2.  How do you approach this negotiation? DO you talk to both individually? Sit everyone down? Ask Poly Peron #1 to clear it and then take their word that it is all cool with PolyPerson#2?

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What is YOUR preference?

I had to fix it. Gray's version was all fucked up....

Yay! Gray’s put up the  Second part o’ the podcast he, CunningMinx and moi did a few weeks back.

The first part is here.

I hear it is interesting. In case you don’t know, GrayDancer is one of them there RopeDuds and has the Ropecast. And the Lovely and Talented CunningMinx is the proprietress of Polyamory Weekly, which is pretty damned awesome.

Take a listen!

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Putting up a kink-related Q&A from Formspring.me. Wanna see your question posted on my blog? Ask me now! I respond to all of ‘em and questions that nudge me or seem to resonate for folks will make it here

Do you have any advice for people who are new to public scenes/BDSM in general?

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It is OK to be in the closet. Some of the best toys are there.

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I’m coming (painfully) out of my first relationship that had a true BDSM element, but my kink is a very private one. I’m not poly, I don’t think I’d enjoy playing in public, and the whole “scene” idea terrifies me. But it’s very much a part of who I am, and this relationship has opened whole new parts of my heart and mind. However, leaving this relationship is scaring the hell out of me because I’m afraid I’ll never again be able to find someone who is content with BDSM in our private life, but not in public and with dozens of play partners. I feel hopeless and scared. Advice?

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Friday, December 18, 2009
Program starts at 7:30pm

Remember those hot summer nights at the county fair, feeling the thrill of the rides and trying your hand at throwing baseballs at milk jugs? THAT’S NOT THIS. Instead, we have a hot winter night of kink, fun, music, and debauchery! Throw a whip, feel a singletail, join in the vibrator races. It’s all part of the Exiles Carnal Carnival! Your regular program admission gets you Exiles Bucks to use at the carnival booths – and you can buy more Bucks for more fun too!

We’ll have raffles for kinky goods and this year, you get to CHOOSE which raffle prize you want to try for. You’ll get a raffle ticket when you come in and another for every child’s toy you donate to MAMA’S TOY DRIVE – and you can buy more raffle tickets for more chances at the goodies!

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Happy HNT!

I experimented a while back with a more kinetic HNT, and I may be the first person freakish enough to have gone there. I challenged myself to do something fun this week, and so I went for another motion-sensitive clip.

Then I got zesty and decided I was gonna put some music to it. The Flip app has music files to choose from, and I realized quickly that the ENTIRE tone of the piece takes a new color depending on the music!

I settled on something rockin’ and defiant…

But before that hit, I had a few musical misses... (more…)