Don’t trust a dom or top to take care of you. A good one, or an inexperienced but decent human being, will try, but they may not know what you need. YOU may not know what you need. They may be clueless, tired, thirsty, headspacy, or desperately insecure before, during, or after a scene. Most people are overconfident in their abilities and tops are people, so don’t go out there right away looking for someone with whom you can totally drop your guard and they will care for you. That person might not exist, might be roleplayed by someone who has no business doing so, or might need to be heavily trained to give you what you need despite having all the best intentions.

If someone gives you the creeps or you didn’t enjoy the scene or you did enjoy it but now have a bad feeling about it, you do not need a defensible-sounding reason not to play with that person again. You are not wrong in your feelings, even if the person is an upstanding model citizen who did nothing wrong. Sometimes nobody is in the wrong.

Sorry…I could go in circles like this all day.