It is tough out here.
When you are single, even tougher. You have been trying, with not much success, to be active in your search for a partner.
You have heard so many stories and seen so much that dents your already battered heart. I know I am not alone, and I want you to know you are not alone.
It is tough to be you. I see that, and I salute your strength.
It is difficult to maintain boundaries against those who would have you and yet damage you in the acquisition. But please, stay strong.
When they tell you you â€œarenâ€™t very submissive,â€ be grateful that they have demonstrated to you a lack of understanding of what submission truly is.
When they mock your boundaries as â€œtoo strict,â€ remember your boundaries are yours, and there to protect you, when no one else can do so as well as you.
When you have to walk away from Yet. Another. Potential match who has not held up their end of the bargain, hold your head high because you have stayed in integrity.
When you feel so alone that your heart would claw its way from your body, hold it close and remember it is your first duty, your Prime Directive, to protect the property and that you can take pride in doing so with compassion, with patience, and with love.
When you are told you are â€œToo needy / loud / quiet/ small / fat / old / young / dark / light / jaded / inexperienced / difficult / easyâ€ remember that has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with what is being projected onto you.
When they tell you you are acting like a spoilt princess because you clearly outline what is and is not acceptable to you, remind them that you have worked hard for that fucking crown, and its Empress, not Princess.
When you feel like compromising, remember you are the most valuable property on the planet as far as you are concerned. Do not give that up for just anyone, especially not in desperation or hunger.
When you feel doubtful, come back and read this. It will always be true.