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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Start Without Me – It’s for when one of us is too tired, or not in the mood, or out of town, or the other of us is too horny to wait. But now, here, right in front of me, you’re touching yourself, playing yourself, and it is the fucking hottest thing I’ve ever seen.

Wicked Tongues - There are so many different ways that a mouth can connect themselves with my cunt. And so many partners, each with their own way of connecting with me.

“Vanilla” Bigotry – I effectively retired my personal usage of the word “vanilla” when one of these sick fucks told me that he hated that term. He said it was condescending, and the implication that kinky people have any idea what goes on in other people’s bedrooms just because they aren’t fucking around in a dungeon was ridiculous.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Audible – More hushed giggles, more kissing sounds. A gasp followed immediately by a quiet, restrained moan. I had to make up the images in my head, try to picture what caused that gasp, who’s mouth was on what body part. Or was it even a mouth?

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Swing Shift Volume 33- We’re “Sexually Festive!” – What I do know is that I love Veronica now more than ever, that we choose our extra-marital partners with care and respect, and never fail to remember that our primary relationship is the most important one. If we’re considered sluts or promiscuous by others, so what?

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Babeland Store Dream

Spend an Evening with Madison Young and Help Support the Arts

Partner rape, cryptids, and other crazy myths

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Anal Sex for Beginners

Choosing the right partner in poly relationships

Controlling or Petty?

Dating and Fucking

In response to: Gang Bang Curiosity

Intoxicative Healing

Reflection

Status Uterus Orgasmus

Therapy – Two Years

The Lost Art of the Hand Job

Time and Punishment: Some dynamics of male chastity in marriage

We Don’t Need No Education?

You Make My Tummy Funny

Kink & Fetish

Another Friday Story Time

BDSM — Abuse and Consent

Creating Space in Kink

Discovered

Ferocity

I am in trouble

Method: Episode Two

Nightly Spanking

Orgasm Control

Sex And Sadness

The Hands of a Goddess

The Day…

Wake-up call

What About the Children

Erotic Writing

Art Wednesday

Are You Watching Me? (3rd and Final Part)

An Afternoon Delight

Back To My Old Tricks

Climax At Midnight #6

controlling the beast

Group Post: “The Day….”

Harmony

Local

No Sex: Need Sleep

Pack It Up…Pack It In

Performance

Solo Session with B

Slam

The Good Kind of Wake-up Call

That Kind Of Girl…Who Gets Off In A Crowded Bar

The Hammer

The Threesome

The Golden Goddess

The Stranger

The realest thing

Wicked Wednesday: Date Night

ECLIPSE IS BACK! If you haven’t been to an Eclipse party – what are you waiting for? Eclipse is a powerful gathering of Women and Trans perverts…all eager to indulge. The intoxicating energy at Eclipse has become known for its intensity and there’s always a surprise to keep our guests on their toes….er knees? In our 3rd year, we’re hotter than ever with fresh music, more presenters, and new themes to help inspire your fantasies! If your in the women’s’ community or ever wanted to get connected, Eclipse if the place to be with our interactive entertainment.

This month we’re gearing up for International Ms. Leather (IMsL) with a surprise presenter! Come and meet this year’s IMsL contestants and start negotiations early for your IMsL scenes.

ABOUT THE SPACE – The SF Citadel provides a safe space for Women & Trans-People to play on state-of-the-art dungeon equipment. Better known as the Bay Area’s Premiere Community Dungeon, with dual levels and 5,400 square feet of play space, the SF Citadel is a sex-positive and volunteer-ran centerpiece of the BDSM Community. We provide the sexy music, water, snacks, and safer sex supplies…you provide yourselves and whatever toys make you tingle. Come alone, come partnered, or bring a group of friends.

VOLUNTEERS – Work just 1 hour and receive free entry! We need volunteers for door, set-up, clean-up, and for those who have training or previous experience in cashier or dungeon monitoring (DMs). To volunteer, e-mail: eclipse@sfcitadel.org

ADMISSION POLICY – You must be a Citadel member to attend. Memberships can be obtained at the door on the night of the party, (2 guests per 1 member allowed). Annual membership cost is $10. Sorry, those who are bio-male AND identify as such in their daily life will not be admitted. Must be 18+ to attend with valid ID required. More information at SF Citadel
~Ms. Cat & Ajax

Eclipse in 2010!

*Friday, May 7th Spring Hook-up!

*Friday, June 25th Pride!

*Sunday, September 26th Folsom!

*December Holiday Un-Wrapping (Date: TBA)

The current International Ms. Leather, Lamalani, was there. As someone in the running for IMsL 2010, it was great to be able to chat a bit with her.

Being an absolute clod when it comes to makeup, I took advantage of the fact that I work with a YouTube famous makeup guru, and asked her to do my makeup before my co-worker, SparklyDevil and I left for the shoot.

I think Jackie  did an awesome job! When photographers and drag queens are telling you you’re looking pretty good, you know it is jumping off!  You should check out Beauty Chaotic, if you, like me, are hopeless with makeup OR if you are awesome with makeup and want to get the scoop on new makeup trends and stuff!   She has a YouTube channel too, so subscribe there.

By the time I got home, my recently root-canaled tooth was jumping jiving and wailing, but I took a few shots before popping a Vicodin and felling asleep. Dental pain isn’t easily eroticized, yo.

So, I hope that, on this HNT, you aren’t struggling with tooth pain and a headache while trying to pack for a red-eye to Washington DC to chill with a thousand perverts for the weekend…!

Happy HNT!

In addition to the contest itself, which is a way for the Leather Community to come together, celebrate our pride in Leather and award the “International Ms. Leather” sash to a contestant, there are many opportunities for folks to participate in supporting the event.

And…even more AWESOME…support me as I run for the title!

There is a program book that is provided to all attendees, and if you want your business to be featured in it, there is still time.

Link to IMsL Program Book Information is here!

(PLEASE NOTE! The deadline as noted in the book DO NOT APPLY if you are supporting me as a contestant. You have until the end of this week!)

Please note! If you mention in your ad that you support my Run for International Ms. Leather you will receive 10% off of the list prices!

Even if you don’t have a business, if you just want to wish me luck, please do consider taking out a small business card sized ad! With your  “Contestant Support Discount” it is only $45 and is much appreciated!

Artwork for the programs and questions relating to layout can be sent to [ProgramBook (at) IMsL (dot) org]

General questions about dates and rates  can be sent to [advertising (at) IMsL (dot) org]

And if you missed my fundraiser, or just want to help out a little, Please click on the

Let’s get rollin’ y’all!

Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here.

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

This Isn’t Play. . . BDSM and Rape – The very basic principle that we hold so dear in BDSM play, “Nothing without consent” seems to stand in stark contrast to a very common form of play, “Rape Play”.

Half-Full – When I get my ass beaten, is it as much for the sensation as it is for the “Good girl…I knew you could take that for me.” that I want so badly at the close of the scene?

House Party Part 2 -His wife walked by at one point and he cryptically asked her to “do what she did to so-and-so earlier”. His wife disappeared behind me, but I felt her hands touching me and his cock as it entered me.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Backseat Orgasms - We kissed lightly and without focus, both a sensual act and maddening at the same time. More, I needed more. In a blur I was on my knees on the seat, straddling his leg, his mouth latched onto one nipple and his fingers hunting for the key to undoing my dress pants.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Are You Watching Me? – A plan of devious proportions begins to form. Before this is over with, I will have forced you into a corner…forced you to act…forced you to give ME what I want.

See also: Pleasurists #64 and 65 for all your sex toy review needs.

Erotic Writing

A story of FL

Contemplation

Cuddling

Floor Exercises

Good day for a milking

Goodbye

G-Spot Orgasms Galore – Part 2

Initiation

Logan

Mark. Confession #423

Mouth

Nothing says I love you quite like…

Playful and Dangerous

Play your part

Plotter

Splish Splash

The Library Hotel

The Secret I Couldn’t Keep

Triple X

Three A.M. Surprise

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Anatomy of Desire (PT. Two)

Better Cautious Than Raped

Lingerie Tales Vol 1 An Obsession Begins

My life as a gamer’s slave

Perplexed

Saturday Texting

So Simple

The Elusive Female Orgasm

The G Spot Mouse or How To Make A Woman Squirt

Transtastic: On Language

Kink & Fetish

A No Limits Slave?

Are Discipline and Punishment The Same?

BDSM Advice Series: Pet Play

Bondage 101—Part 1: Bondage Basics

Breaking the Demons

Dark/DirtyBlog Crush

Factory Doll

Hand vs. toys

I’m on a book cover: ‘The Punishment List’ by Abel

Kink

Men as sex objects

Rough Porn

Raleigh and La Fortress

Savouring the texture of my skin with his teeth

The Way They Look At Me

The Slut Chronicles #13 ~ The Auction

Whither the spankosphere?

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Happy Valentines Day!

Hookers, Catholic School Students and Facebook

Lane Bryant Makes Puppies and Kittens Cry

Pussy Cosmetics and Vagina Myths

Strong Slaves, Bodacious Bottoms & Ass-Kicking Submissives: Embracing Dichotomy with Mollena Williams

Where: smOdyssey

Class room is at 1725 De la Cruz, Suite #5,Santa Clara, CA

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When: Tuesday February 23, 2010

Time: 7:00pm – 9:00pm

Cost: $10.00 members of smOdyssey, Inc- $15.00 non-members

Strong Slaves, Bodacious Bottoms & Ass-Kicking Submissives:

Embracing Dichotomy

Self-identification is difficult for anyone in the alternative lifestyle. It can be even more challenging for people who see themselves as strong in their lives but desirous of submission. There is a great deal of pressure in the BDSM community to “seem submissive,” so what do you do when you see yourself as strong and fierce and yet crave mastery and domination? Believe me, you are not alone. There are many submissives and bottoms and slaves who are strong and independent and finding their way through the maze of the Kink Community! This class is an intense discussion of self-assessment personal identification, passion and power. From those who struggle with their desire to submit, to those who strive for greater strength of purpose, this class will be a wonderful opportunity to bond with the likeminded and suss out your strength in an open setting. And for tops dominants and masters, this is an excellent opportunity to get into the mind of those who are strong and embrace the dichotomy of strength in submission and freedom in slavery!

The Wolf Princess

I am fortunate. I am lucky to have “Grown up” in one of the more vibrant and open cities when it comes to alternative lifestyles. As a magnet for all manner of freaks, San Francisco is one of the crossroads: all of the “Big Name Fancy Perverts” come on through.

My favourite part of getting to know high-profile kinksters is when I realize that they are “just folks” and than their knowledge and standing and cred doesn’t make them inaccessible.  One of the women I have respected for a very long while is Lolita Wolf, and I am fortunate enough to have had our paths cross, and have been able to go from dorky fan girl to dorky fangirl and occasional fortunate recipient of her amazing attentions.

After I managed to stammer out some doofy inquiry, I wound up landing myself spot #23 on her “100 Divas” list. And never in my life have I been so glad to have been twenty-third.

You can read my account of this truly delightful encounter here…

SO, on the occasion of her birthday, I say Happy Birthday, Lolita! I also say Thank you for all you do to educate and inspire, for your warmth and honesty and sparkly smile and playful, sweet sadism.

Furthermore, I also say you can smack me around any time you damn well feel like it and I’m within striking distance.

Thou art awesome!

With Love…

#23

Someone who has no business telling me what to do insisted that he was tired of seeing me hiding my tits behind my arm or a convenient stuffed heffalumnp, and he wanted to “…see all that shit, goddammmit.”

And, because, under the right / wrong circumstances, I often find myself reluctantly obeying Bad, Bad People, I complied.

But, to be a smart ass, I had to add my own flair…

WARNING! B@@BS! Below the cut!! OMFG TITTIES! Big ones. You’ve been warned

Happy HNT!

We have Art from Lochai…Bellydancing from Mistress Selina Raven…Rope Bondage and a Tea Ceremony by Madame Butterfly…penitential spankings from Sister of Perpetual Indulgence Sister Mable Syrup and Rubber Chicken Spankings from Froghole The Clown…Tea Demonstrations and rope bondage demos… beautiful harp music provided LIVE by Ms. Beth Powell…and SO much more cool shit!

Silent Auction Items that include BEAUTIFUL fetish and Bondage photography…a life coaching session, Legal help, Massage…and the chance to negotiate a scene with Mo Williams, Ms. SF Leather 2009!

You will NOT WANT TO MISS this kickass party!

I love kinky people. The community, warts and all, is a home for me.  And like any extended weird family, we have our disagreements.

I know for a fact that there will be people reading this who are on the other side of this discussion. But when it comes to talking shit about people who don’t do sex the way we do, I have strong opinions.

When I’m in a room full of kinky people and someone says “I feel so sorry for the poor vanillas. I just don’t get how they could be so lame!” and goes on to expand on how kinky sex is the best way to have intimate relations, that “they” will “never understand” how much “better” our sex is, and I see the majority of people in the room nodding or clucking their tongues sympathetically, I realize something.

We become that which we reject when we paint people who don’t fuck the same way that we do with a broad brush.

The two best lovers I have ever had weren’t “kinky.” According to them. They were sadistic, deliciously sick, fucked up sex maniacs. They slapped me around, said all sorts of horrible shit to me, fucked my brains out, and still felt pretty good about themselves.

Neither one of them had ever taken a Kink class, set foot into a play party,  or could tell SSC from WTF.

Now you “Enlightened” perverts can pooh-pooh that and wink knowingly and say “Oh, yeah, they were kinky. They just didn’t know it yet.”

But who the fuck are you to tell people how they should identify?

Kinky sex is NOT, by default, better sex. It is for YOU if you are kinky. People who don’t do BDSM are not all  ignorant or unenlightened.

I effectively retired my personal usage of the word “vanilla” when one of these sick fucks told me that he hated that term. He said it was condescending, and the implication that kinky people have any idea what goes on in other people’s bedrooms just because they aren’t fucking around in a dungeon was ridiculous.

And I agreed.  Today, I refer to “non-kink identified” people or “non-scene” folks instead.

It is far more difficult to assault the “sad vanillas” when you have to maybe take a moment to think that we aren’t in an “us against them” place. Capping on “vanillas” is not only rude, it is problematic for us as a community.

1)      You do not know what “they” are doing in their bedrooms.

Remember: being in the public BDSM community means that, in addition to being kinky you are probably also somewhat exhibitionistic, and have a desire to be public about your sex life. The people you refer to as “vanillas’ might well be doing shit even kinkier than you are doing, but you’d never know it because they consider it to be “none of your business.”

2)      “Vanilla” sex is relative.

What is kinky to me might be run-of-the-mill to another person. The aforementioned lover who explained to me that he found the term “vanilla” condescending? He had no problem calling me his “dirty black whore,” while slapping and choking me, ordering me to “suck his white dick” and then shoving his deliciously thick cock up my ass… … mmm … …

… wait, where was I?  Fuck. Sorry. SEVERELY distracted for a second.

Sigh.

Oh yeah.

“Vanillas…”

For HIM, this was run-of-the-mill. For me, this was hot kinky sex. Who is the pervert there?

3)      Not being kinky AS FAR AS ANYONE KNOWS shouldn’t relegate someone into an idiot status because of your knee jerk reaction.

This boils me as much as those who slam Christians, Muslims, Mormons, Burners, Catholics…yadda. The actions of some douchebags transcends race, class, religions. And sexuality. How did we, as kinky people, become OK with talking shit about other humans who do it differently than we do? Because they talk shit about us? Is this third grade? Who is unenlightened if your attitude of scorn and ridicule is based on reciprocity because of the perceived actions of the few?

4)      Talking shit about “vanillas” takes you out of the loop to be an ambassador and advocate.

The only way ignorance and fear is overcome is through time, practice and exposure. Sitting around lording it over “ignorant, unenlightened vanillas” isn’t going to make you any more accessible to or accountable for the “Community.”

5)      By talking shit about “vanillas,” you are AS LAME as the bigoted people you think you are reviling.

Because, yeah, it is bigotry. and now you are  a big ole bigot! And that is bad! Because…

6)      Bigotry sucks.

The tactic of elevating your own intelligence, sensitivity, enlightenment and awesomeness by disparaging another group is a particularly insidious bigotry.  If the thing that makes you a Special Snowflake is being kinky, that is FANtastic. But hopefully you have other stuff going on for you too. And hopefully you are genuinely open to other folk’s lifestyles. Because trashing “vanillas” sure as fuck doesn’t sound bloody accepting to me.

7)      Capping on non-kink identified/”vanilla” people is EXACTLY like capping on dykes by saying “you just haven’t met the right man.”

How do you feel when you say, out loud, “Those poor fags…if they only knew the joy of pussy, they’d never suck dick again!”

8)      You are a shitty ambassador for Kink if you are condescending and superior.

Being who you are and making it a part of your life is wonderful. Just because someone doesn’t make the same choices you do doesn’t make them a knuckle-dragging bass-ackwards sexual crétin

9)      “Vanilla” sex is only “boring” if you do it wrong.