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Lee Harrington is an internationally known spiritual and erotic educator, gender
explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on human
sexuality and sacred experience. He has been an academic and an adult film
performer, is a kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and
spirituality since 1998. Read more about Lee at

Mollena (Mo) Williams is a native New Yorker, performer, actor, award-winning
writer and BDSM educator. She is International Ms. Leather 2010 and Ms. SF
Leather 2009. Consciously kinky since 1993 and active in leather and BDSM
since 1996, she travels extensively, speaking on topics including kink, BDSM,
power exchange relationships and negotiating it all safely. Read more about
Mollena at The Perverted Negress,

Praise for Playing Well With Others:

There is so much excitement in the air about “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities.” Check out what folks have been saying about it!

“Brilliant – an instant classic! Playing Well With Others is destined to be the go-to guide to conscious kink for years to come. This engaging, fun and witty book is crammed with indispensable wisdom for newcomers and experienced players alike. I love this book!”– Barbara Carrellas, Author, Urban Tantra, Ecstasy is Necessary

“Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington are a much-needed team of sex ed bandits on the loose, spreading their gospel of stigma-free power exchange in everyday life. This lifestyle advice and community guide’s ‘choose your own adventure’ approach will be helpful to all readers from curious closeted freaks to experienced public pervs.” – Abiola Abrams, Official Bombshell Handbook, Curator of Passionate Living at

“A reader-friendly, upbeat, one-stop guide to everything you need to know to play safely and joyfully in the BDSM community, from defining your own journey to playing well with others. Authors Harrington and Williams bring their own special brand of intelligence, warmth, fun and wisdom to dispelling myths and promoting blissful BDSM in a book that is an instant classic in BDSM education.” – Dr. Gloria G. Brame, Different Loving, Come Hither: The Truth About Sex

“If you’ve wondered about venturing into that strange and mythical bunch of people who supposedly have those dangerous whips-and-handcuffs parties in sleazy clubs or dim basements, but the stereotype has scared you off, take heart: Lee and Mollena have blown away those fictional bogeymen and given you an easy step-by-step guide to safely entering this domain, and in the process they’ve shown that it isn’t nearly as scary or sleazy as you think. Playing Well With Others lets you know what you can expect, what will be expected of you, and how you can get the most out of your visits into this realm. While it doesn’t guarantee to get you kinky sex, it will make the process of trying look a lot easier, and it ought to have “Don’t Panic” written on in the cover in large, comforting chains.” – Raven Kaldera, Dark Moon Rising

“An insightful and thoroughly entertaining book. Full of humor, playfully presented insights, and profound truths. Whether you’re a seasoned player or new to the kink community, this book is a must read. Quite honestly, it’s the most complete and accurate presentation of kink community dynamics I have ever read!” – JD of Two Knotty Boys, Showing You the Ropes

“If you are a newcomer to the world of BDSM, you could have no friendlier or more supportive guides than Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams. In Playing Well with Others, you will find everything you need to know about how to find the kink communities, connect with fellow kinksters, and negotiate with honesty, practicality, and courtesy to make your wildest dreams come true: this book is the roadmap you’ve been looking for.” – Dossie Easton, MFT, The Ethical Slut, The New Bottoming Book, The New Topping Book and more

“Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams have written a ‘Welcome to BDSM’ guidebook that tackles the who, what, when, where and why of kink. They break down everything from cons to collars and munches to masochism with an easygoing, informative style that tells it like it is. Newbies and seasoned kinksters alike will appreciate their wisdom.” – Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor, Cheeky Spanking Stories and the Best Bondage Erotica series

“These two educators have really hit it out of the park with Playing Well With Others. From newly minted kinksters to experienced edgeplayers, fabulous fetishists to savvy swingers, this book provides a wealth of useable information and incredible resources on how to optimize your experiences in the kink, leather and even swinging communities. A must have!” – Shanna Katz, M.Ed, ACS, Sexuality and Board Certified Sexologist

“Consider this book a safe haven for perverts. Wrap yourself in the reassuring language of Lee and Mollena’s thorough overview of the myriad kink communities. Know that you will be well-equipped with an easy-to-navigate map that will take you from Vanilla Town to Rocky Road in style. Really, this book is an excellent primer for learning how to be a decent human being. The kink element is just an added bonus.” – Kendra Holliday, writer and editor of The Beautiful Kind

“Congratulations! What you hold in your hands may just be the most thorough and up-to-date book illuminating the multifaceted world of BDSM and Kink. Mollena and Lee take you on a step- by-step journey where nothing is taboo! If you are just starting out or have been playing for years, you’ll find the latest on everything from power dynamics to human pups! Embrace your desires. Let your erotic archetypes out to play; pleasure, intimacy, healing and fulfillment await you! – Cléo Dubois, Academy Of SM Arts

“Two words, Dear Reader: Sustainable. Community. Though packaged in a pervy panoply of passion and possibility, this island in the sea of kink is home to the treasures of truth necessary to create and foster any type of affinity-based sustainable community. This field guide to kink communities, with a consent-based model featuring personal empowerment, is a tool I wish I’d had thirty years ago when I first came out into kink. From the absolute noob we’ve all been to the credentialed members of an Old Guard that has never existed, there’s something for all. This book might wear a leather jacket, but beneath its cover lies the naked truth of how to be completely, authentically human in appropriate community.” – Rev. Deborah Addington, author, A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting, Fantasy Made Flesh: The Essential Guide to Erotic Roleplay, Play Piercing

“Feeling like Cinderella going to your first kinky ball? This book is your Fairy Godmother! Playing Well With Others is a must-read guide to your foray into the kinky realms. Practical, hilarious, helpful, smart and generous.” – Midori, Sexuality educator, author, founder of Rope Bondage Dojo & ForteFemme,

Harrington and Williams have created an indispensable guide for kinky explorers and those who care about them. Readers seeking concrete, accessible, and lovingly crafted step-by-step information have found the perfect book! – Ruth Neustifter, Ph.D., The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty,