The more I change the more I stay the same.

So often one wonders how they wind up who they are. At least I do. I will be in a moment, living, thinking, doing whatever it is I’m doing and then part of my consciousness will pull back for a moment and say to the rest of my consciousness “Whoah. Really? Is this really happening?…

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“Best Sex Writing” reviewed by Jezebel!

Sex Ed: Best Sex Writing 2010 Takes On Race Play, Swinging, And “Sexy Dwarfs” The title of Best Sex Writing 2010 may mislead some people — this (mostly) isn’t porn, but rather a collection of essayistic pieces on topics ranging from condoms to fisting. Which isn’t to say the book — edited by Rachel Kramer…

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The Negress Natters: On BDSM & Race Play.

Look, Ma! New Tech! Welcome to what will probably be a new regular feature on The Perverted Negress! I can talk and you can listen and I don’t have to fucking type. What’s not to LOVE?! Check out the post on race play inspired by Jaki, who sent me a message on FetLife and then…

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Race-play roll-up and ruminations.

You might not have known me back when I first started talking publicly about my experiences as a Black woman, into BDSM, as a submissive /slave identified person, who did scenes that incorporated and underscored racial issues in play. If you did, you remember the flamewars, fights, humiliating rejection, condemnation and various hootenannies that fell…

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