Having Family, whether the one into which you are born, the one you make, the one you stumble into, or the one that welcomes you in, is vital. I have several Families to whom I belong, and they play various roles in my life. My born family, my Hunter Family, my Theater family, my Family in Recovery…the Family of fellow Titleholders, my small circle of Leather Family, the Family that is my theater company, Crowded Fire…my new far-flung International Family of fellow Leatherfolk and Kinky peeps.

Regardless of whatever draws Family together, what keeps Family together is a common desire for camaraderie, support, love, and a “safe haven” from the slings and arrows, the judgement and ebb and flow of the default world. For Leatherfolks, this can be lifesaving: we sometimes can’t hope to find unconditional acceptance “Out There.” So. We make our own Family. (more…)

A couple of  years ago, I had a rather unpleasant moment where I was on the receiving end of a roomful of laughter when I introduced myself as, among other things, monogamous. If you care to read the whole story, you can do so here. After realizing that part of the rich stew of emotions I felt when this occurred, a thread of this was embarrassment and shame.

Living in the Bay Area, where the overwhelming majority of people in the BDSM Leather & kink community are poly-identified, it was feeling more and more true, for me, that being monogamous was looked on as “quaint” and not treated with much respect. I had to look at why I was feeling this way, and part of it was that human feeling of wanting to be accepted, and realizing that people mocking something that is core to me did NOT encourage that feeling. I don’t like feeling like the weirdo among weirdoes, and this seems to be mt place as often as not

Od course, the more something bugs me the more I want to talk about it, so here I am a couple of years later doing a class on one aspect of the monogamous experience in the BDSM / Leather / Kink community. There aren’t many of us out there talking about it, and so I felt compelled to add my voice to the mix.

As I think and write and discuss and study, I would be honored and appreciative to hear from other monogamous folks about how they cope with being monogamous in situations where that choice / orientation isn’t necessarily common. How do you deal with feelings of shame or discomfort? Feeling discouraged, or as though your search for a partner is that much more difficult?

And if you have something you’d like to share with other monogamous-identified folks, please do so. Sometimes, a simple word of encouragement goes a long way.

I know I could use one right about now

Ain’t done a HNT in forever…

But yeah, I figured I’d hit one up.

Hi from Berlin!

I am in the midst of a pretty epic trip to 8 cities in 4 countries and it is exciting. But a bit lonely at times. Well, except when I’m being attacked by angry  Bavarian bees and bedbugs….

SO, while I was at the Berlin Zoo yesterday, I bought this happy guy, and named him Paul (after the psychic, World Cup predicting octopus) the VIII (because…you know.) and he is my friend for the rest of this trip.

Consider my HNT my homage to that famous Japanese woodcut. But slightly less …. er … sexehtime

Meet Paul VIII

Happy HNT!

Hey folks!

Well, plans I had for the third week of my trip to Europe rather unfortunately and abruptly feel through.

If you happen to live in or have a flat in or know someone with a spare bedroom somewhere in Western Europe (somewhere served by EasyJet or RyanAir or the like) who might not mind putting up (with) a wandering pervert, drop me a line! I’m housebroken and friendly and helpful and all of that shit.  I’m looking for a place to land from August 7th ~ August 14th

The previous week, I’ll be in Berlin, so somewhere I can easily access from there would be awesome. Otherwise, anything may well go

love

Mo

We could use a little help, if you;re feeling helpful!

Here are the following positions we need filled:

8pm-10:45– Volunteers needed for Door Duty;
- collecting donations from attendees
- applying wristbands to those that have paid

945pm-11pm (or last shuttle pick up near our event time)

– 2 volunteers needed for organizing people being picked up/directing those getting off the shuttle to Mr S & Madame S Leather

10:30pm- done! – 2 Volunteers needed for clean up

If you can help please drop a line to Lance, Mr SF Leather 2010 at MrSFLeather2010@gmail.com

And even if you can’t volunteer,

come on down and check out the party!

Clix for Tix!

Not that kind, silly.

I’m performing the re-vamped 69stories: One Pervert’s Tale at the Exit Theater to benefit the Cynthia Slater Memorial AIDS Walk team.

It is This coming Wednesday, at 8:00 PM

You can buy tickets here, and I’ll be selling copies of The Toybag Guide To: Taboo Play post-show

From Southeast Leatherfest and I am thrilled to present:

KNOW YOUR NEGRO!

From left to right, we have Q. Viola Johnson. Mollena Williams. Really, we aren't the same person.

Q is awesome! Vi Johnson is a Living Leather Legend, and Griot of the Leather Community. I’m just Mo.

I have been mistaken for Q no less than 8 times. This weekend I was mistaken for Mother Vi Johnson. Q has been mistaken for me once. I present the photo above as a Public Service Announcement.

Thanks, Perverts! Pass it on!