HNT: Sunlight’s Stripey Stockings.

  I haven’t submitted an HNT in FOREVER…I’d have to do epic research to figure out when the last one was!   But I took a few pictures this afternoon. One was a special version, for a special person (waves to The Dominant Guy) but I took ths one too, suitable for public consumption. Then…

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Relocation…? Bonus.

SO, OK.   Um…its like…it feels like…   It feels like I’m smashing my head up against a hard rubber wall is what it feels like.   I spent some time during one of my classes at the Folsom Fringe event calmly muzzling my increasingly agitated Dæmon, Bubbles. There was a discussion going on about…

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Because I will not STFU…

…you’ll soon have yet another medium in which you may listen to me carry on!   Dan & Dawn of Erotic Awakenings (among many other things!) have picked meeeee to be the latest addition to the amazing roster of podcasters! I will be joning the OMFGamazing Lee Harrington and those PanPolyPerverts Barak & Sheba with…

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The cauterized heart.

Relax. Its a cake.

I was nonplussed to find myself trailing along…again…trying to keep up with The  DominantGuy which is a challenge on a slow day and OMFG! WTF!! SMH… on a busy day. And I turned around and he’d vanished, again. And I’m standing there, feeling at loose ends. Waiting. Again.   Much of being in service is…

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Feeling safe in feeling human.

As a submissive – someone who prefers relationships where there is a mutually beneficial unequal power dynamic – I have done quite a bit of self-exploration around my needs and desires. And as someone who seeks out a master / slave relationship – a relationship where one human secedes power and control over themselves on…

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One year. Today.

In one year…   I have grown so much. I’ve pushed myself beyond the bounds of what I thought I needed to find joy, what I thought I found desirable, what I thought was possible.   It was a year ago today I shook hands with a man who, I would very soon learn, was to…

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Regarding my friend, Lee Harrington.

As a prominent member of several of the alternative lifestyle communities in which I run, I admire Lee Harrington. As a prolific publisher, I am wowed by his tireless efforts to educate and illuminate dark places.  As a co-conspirator, I have had the pleasure of hashing out thoughts and ideas into new and amazing forms. As a friend, I…

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backlash

I’m starting to envy those who actually have time for “drop.” That whole “con-drop” thing isn’t something I’ve personally processed, it isn’t a cycle to which I’m accustomed, because I always have the next convention on the horizon. And the rare times I go over a month without a major kink event are the times…

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Service animal.

Having a memory as surreal as mine is, occasionally, amusing. I can recall some conversations with freakish clarity, be they the day before yesterday or Valentine’s Day 1993. But please don’t ask me what I ate for lunch yesterday. So this makes for fun times when I buy something for myself, totally forget, then feel…

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Win! [straight-up back-patting]

I have been invited to be a part of IvyQ. IvyQ is a rad badass LGBTQ conference, jointly hosted by a few schools of which you might have heard, like Princeton, Yale, Harvard, Penn, Brown, Columbia, Cornell and Dartmouth. I am seriously so excited and honored and…and lots of stuff. That these schools not only…

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