Sep 182009

I strive to swerve online drama. I have been doing the “online thing” for a while now. Not as long as some, but longer than others.

I still become honestly puzzled by people who assume that a common sexual bent will somehow filter out jerks, losers, douchebags, whiners, predators, evil beings, and just plain old fashioned annoying folks.

The BDSM “Scene”, the Leather Community, all of these things are, at best, a skewed microcosm.

Don’t be so foolish as to think that bonding over bondage makes the person next to you on that St. Andrew’s Cross any more intelligent, sensitive, or open-minded than the guy depositing your check at the bank.

In the same way that a safeword provides only a modicum of insurance (some would argue a false sense of security as well) the “feeling of community” does NOT assure you that all is warm and fuzzy.

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Dec 292007






*deep breath*

Once Again!!

Main Entry: dom·i·nant

Pronunciation: \-n?nt\

Function: adjective

Etymology: Middle French or Latin; Middle French, from Latin dominant-, dominans, present participle of dominari

Date: circa 1532

1 a: commanding, controlling, or prevailing over all others (the dominant culture)
b: very important, powerful, or successful (a dominant theme) (a dominant industry)

2: overlooking and commanding from a superior position (a dominant hill)

3: of, relating to, or exerting ecological or genetic dominance

4: being the one of a pair of bodily structures that is the more effective or predominant in action (dominant eye)


Main Entry: dom·i·nate

Pronunciation: \’dä-m?-?nat\

Function: verb

Inflected Form(s): dom·i·nat·ed; dom·i·nat·ing

Etymology: Latin dominatus, past participle of dominari, from dominus master; akin to Latin domus house — more at dome

Date: 1611

transitive verb 1: RULE control(an empire that dominated the world)

2: to exert the supreme determining or guiding influence on (the ambition that has dominated his life)

3: to overlook from a superior elevation or command because of superior height or position (a hill that dominates the town)

4 a: to be predominant in (sugar maples dominate the forest)

b: to have a commanding or preeminent place or position in (name brands dominate the market)intransitive verb1: to have or exert mastery, control, or preeminence

2: to occupy a more elevated or superior position


OK. See, it is not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things.

But if you are going to label yourself, if you are going to tell the world of pervery and, frankly, the entire INTERWEBS that you wanna be the boss of someone, it is not TOO MUCH TO ASK you to get this together.

This screenshot. Let me show you it. –>

Look at it closely.

Go on.


Even GOOGLE Tries to stop you from making this mistake!!

Try it yourself!

This Googletastic autosuggest MUST be the result of the hundreds of thousands of clueless “dominates” (would be DOMINANTS!!!) fucking this shit up!!!

Seriously, this is the ocular equivalent of the aural torture of nails on a chalkboard.

GO read the following sentence aloud to your mirror:

“Hi, my name is _______________, and I am a DOMINATE!”

Does that even SOUND RIGHT to you?!!?

Then you are dumb as a bag of moist Limburger.
And you should leave my blog.
Right now.
Never, ever come back.

I’ll wait.