Some people wonder what they can do when everyone else is following along one path. “I’m just one person.” they insist. “I don’t have the same ‘high-profile you have,” they tell me “nobody will listen to me.” “Yeah, I know that person / presenter / event / group / Munch is slack on shitty behaviour….or…

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There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order…

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When you look at “Power Exchange” relationships – that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet (or all aspects!) of their lives to another person – it seems obvious whose needs, wants and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the…

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In the midst of listening to my friend Midori conduct her most excellent class on “Aural Sex,” I had an epiphany and a small heartbreak. This is awkward when one is trying to simply listen and learn and absorb the teachings flowing through the moment. While she was describing how one might use the voice…

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One of the most precious gifts I have received from the BDSM, Kink and Leather Confederations is, in fact, a double-edged sword. And that is freedom to be who I am. The thing is? It kind of helps if you know who the fuck you are before you go exercising that freedom. It also helps…

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I could count on one hand the number of times he kissed me throughout the entirety of our relationship on one hand and still have fingers to spare to cock and trigger an imaginary gun and I wondered if this was because he didn’t think I was worthy of kissing The first kiss was the…

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...I got this.

I have no resolutions. This isn’t as weirdly hopeless as it might sound. I’ve spent the past few weeks fretting on one account or another. Some of it is fretting over what choices I “should” be making, what things I “should” be doing, and judging my own life and progress against that of others around…

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