I was approached a few months ago to be interviewed by Phile Magazine. The added plum of the interview consisting of myself and the startlingly badass artist Kenya Robinson talking shit made it irresistible. This issue features Andrea Flockhart Benjamin Frederickson Candystore Cary Fagan Charlie Engman Erin Reznick Guillaume Blondiau Hannsjörg Voth Hudson Hayden Jordan…

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If you don’t know, you need to know. There is a magnificent human, LadySpeech Sankofa aka QuiAnna Ray, and you absolutely need to pick up what she’s laying down. She often shares on Facebook, and does weekly reading and affirmation shares. One afternoon in October, I tuned in for QuiAnna Ray’s Monday reading. On this…

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©Michele Serchuk 2015

I have some brilliant and talented friends, not the least of whom is the award-winning and world-renowned photographer Michele Serchuk. She’s simply wonderful in every aspect of photography, from brainstorming themes, moods and ideas to keeping the atmosphere on-set focused yet fun.  When she approached me about her latest project, which was a photographic series…

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Seriously. This is a town in Austria.

One of the things I am pondering mightily is the reality of submission as it is lived vs. the hot & horny fantasy of d/s. A time ago, I went to the Center for Sex & Culture​ to see Laura Antoniou​ talk about stuff. Not many people beside myself were there, because jaded-ass San Francisco…

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As International Ms Leather 2010, I weathered my own share of controversy. The IMsL 2015 has already weathered quite a bit of controversy. Those of you who have been following along on FaceBook and FetLife don’t need a rehash, but suffice to say that we’ve been waging wars on many fronts, starting with this image,…

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Hey kids…it has been a while, innit? Lots happening, and some more needs to happen before i can shakedown this blog and reopen it in the way I’d like to. Some seismic shifts have pushed about my little life’s coracle and I- we – have weathered them. Some waves have been rough and once or twice,…

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One year ago today, a rather intriguing e-mail hit my inbox on OKCupid. One year and one week ago today, in a very demanding conversation with my Higher Power, I’d let Him know I was done with these crazy dreams and schemes I’d had. I was depressed. I was just back from a wildly unsuccessful…

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Dear Submissive… Submission can, and should, be many things. From torturously difficult to lightly breezy, from profoundly sexual to sublimely spiritual. However. It outright ought not feel WRONG. If / when it does, stop. Stop and think. Stop and think and check yourself. Then protect the property. Peace. Mo

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It’s the same mantra and hand wringing every few years. “THEY ARE RUINING THE SCENE!” “It was So. Much. Better in the (insert decade prior to current decade)!” When people bemoan the broader acceptance and cultural destigmatization of BDSM and scoff at the hoi polloi who ruined the glory days, I can’t help but wonder…

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When I was in Sweden earlier this year – (and suffering from a MASSIVE middle-ear infection) I was interviewed for a show that would, eventually, air on Swedish TV. Thanks to a sharp-eyed friend over in Sverige (THANK YOU JOHAN!) I just got word that it aired tonight on television and everything!

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