After the first half of the summer spent running around Europe, Der Spousemeister and I get back to the funky-ass Ewe Ess of Aay and hit the road for a few events! Check me out teaching at Thunder in the Mountains or come party with us Weekend Reunion!    

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Unspeakable Axe runs the Masocast, and I am delighted to have been invited to sit and chat with him for a while! We recorded it in… December, I think? My memory isn’t awesome and I don’t care all that much…at least not enough to so dig around in my Google calendar and scritch it up! It was wonderful…

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SO, yeah. I have wanted these Necomimi brainwave-influenced ears (I know. Shut UP!)  for a long while now but boy were they expensive for a fun toy. Then the Evil Wicked folks from The Violet Wand Store are here at Beat Me in Saint Louis, and they were HALF as much as they were last time I…

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http://www.gofundme.com/playingwellwithothers  After a few years in the making, “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” is out!  To celebrate, we have planned an ambitious book tour: 16 cities in 21 days! We will be traversing the USA (and Vancouver) by train (and a few legs…

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Having a memory as surreal as mine is, occasionally, amusing. I can recall some conversations with freakish clarity, be they the day before yesterday or Valentine’s Day 1993. But please don’t ask me what I ate for lunch yesterday. So this makes for fun times when I buy something for myself, totally forget, then feel…

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I’ve been invited to do keynotes at Leather / Kink events a handful of times, and as someone who doesn’t really believe in writing speeches, this always throws me into a blind panic. Yes, one of my own making but I personally challenge myself to life up to the challenge of what speeches are, IMO,…

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I have now, in the past 3 days, seen 4-5 threads about newcomers complaining about the lack of kink, sex, and fuckery at Munches. If you read the history, you’ll see what happens when Munches deviate from this rule. And some folks in the PNW re-learned this lesson the hard way recently. Dating and “getting…

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Nah, it ain’t some crunchy navel-gazing post. I am on my way ot the Southeast Leatherfest. And, believe it or not, this will be the first time I’ve traveled to a leather event at which I was NOT presenting since my very first Black Rose back in in 1998. What  long strange trip it’s been. I am…

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