I’ve been invited to do keynotes at Leather / Kink events a handful of times, and as someone who doesn’t really believe in writing speeches, this always throws me into a blind panic. Yes, one of my own making but I personally challenge myself to life up to the challenge of what speeches are, IMO, meant to be: spoken in the moment.
This past winter I was to speak at Leather Reign up in Seattle and I was nervous as fuck. Shout outs to Sheryn B., who tossed me a nugget from which to jump off for the speech and also props to The Dominant Guy, for patience with my hamsterbrain flipmode meanderings in the days leading up to the speechification.
Thank you for posting this (and thank you for saying it in the first place). It’s a great speech – full of love. I really liked your expression of the life stages – it makes me feel less bad about messing up when I think of it as me still being in my kink adolescence!
Thank you for listening! “Messing up” is, really the best way to learn. People telling you shit is one thing but having to pick yourself up and do the thing yourself is an indelible reminder of what not to do again mollena´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…A death in the Leather Family
I sat in my favorite big armchair next to the heater which clanked and hissed and drank a diet coke and listened to this yesterday evening and it was pretty much a perfect experience Lily´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…I make Lost and Found interesting- dammit
Thank you for posting this. It’s so touching and thought provoking. You’re a truly powerful speaker. I love that you are a gut spiller, it gives the rest of us that are someone strong to align with so we don’t look stupid when spilling our own shit everywhere. So thank you!!!! for giving a voice to those that are too shy to get in front of a crowd and do it themselves.
[...] words and put it on the table themselves (gawd I hope she realizes that). Today she linked to her keynote speech from Leather Reign 2010 on her website. It’s thought provoking, touching and like most [...]
Thank you for this. Thank you SO much for this. Every time I struggle or doubt I will refer back to this speech and know I am not alone and there is a reason for this path. You are awe inspiring. Sestra´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…Im Nervous…
Thank you so much for listening, Sestra! You are hardly alone. Even though it feels like that sometimes…you’re not alone by a long-shot. mollena´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…A death in the Leather Family
The stars aligned, the event for which I was supposed to travel to Denver was canceled, I do not have rehearsal for “Drip” that evening, and miraculously I’m insane enough to do it. *deep Breath* I am in the running for Ms. SF Leather 2009! OK, yea, pick your jaw up off of the floor [...]
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Thank you for posting this (and thank you for saying it in the first place). It’s a great speech – full of love. I really liked your expression of the life stages – it makes me feel less bad about messing up when I think of it as me still being in my kink adolescence!
Jx
J´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…Breathing and control
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mollena Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 3:28 am
Thank you for listening! “Messing up” is, really the best way to learn. People telling you shit is one thing but having to pick yourself up and do the thing yourself is an indelible reminder of what not to do again
mollena´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…A death in the Leather Family
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Comment by J — April 20, 2011 @ 4:03 pm
I sat in my favorite big armchair next to the heater which clanked and hissed and drank a diet coke and listened to this yesterday evening and it was pretty much a perfect experience
Lily´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…I make Lost and Found interesting- dammit
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mollena Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 3:32 am
mollena´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…A death in the Leather Family
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Comment by Lily — April 23, 2011 @ 9:17 am
Thank you for posting this. It’s so touching and thought provoking. You’re a truly powerful speaker. I love that you are a gut spiller, it gives the rest of us that are someone strong to align with so we don’t look stupid when spilling our own shit everywhere. So thank you!!!! for giving a voice to those that are too shy to get in front of a crowd and do it themselves.
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mollena Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 3:55 am
Thank you so much…from one shy person to another.
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Comment by CandiAnne — April 25, 2011 @ 10:52 am
[...] words and put it on the table themselves (gawd I hope she realizes that). Today she linked to her keynote speech from Leather Reign 2010 on her website. It’s thought provoking, touching and like most [...]
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Thank you for this. Thank you SO much for this. Every time I struggle or doubt I will refer back to this speech and know I am not alone and there is a reason for this path. You are awe inspiring.
Sestra´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…Im Nervous…
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mollena Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 3:57 am
Thank you so much for listening, Sestra! You are hardly alone. Even though it feels like that sometimes…you’re not alone by a long-shot.
mollena´s most recent [type] moment of Zen on the net was…A death in the Leather Family
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Comment by Sestra — April 25, 2011 @ 12:55 pm