Vancouver Explosion! November 5th ~ 7th 2010

Via Nubian Imp Productions, I’m gonna be Teaching Classes! Signing Books! Performing 69Stories: One Pervert’s Tale! IN CANADIA, BITCHES!! YES yes I know it is Canada I just like saying Canadia because they’re Canadians and I enjoy deliberate, provovative misappropriation of shit. I can’t tell you how excited to make my VERY FIRST trip to visit Canada in…

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The Right Question

When I speak about BDSM practices, one of my core assertions about the difference between WIITWD (“What It Is That we Do”) and abuse is intent. The person who verbally humiliates their partner to gain control and erode the self-esteem of the other, or the spouse who beats and harms their significant other, using violence…

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Monogamy as Mindfuck…?

You can find it here and though the title “How to trick your brain into liking sex with only one person.” was initially bemusing, I think the advice for creating lasting pair-bonding is interesting regardless of relationship configuration(s). This especially resonated for me: The good news is that the ancient mammalian brain is also home to…

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Wanting.

I want to do it right, whatever it is. I want to be pleasing. I want to be beautiful. I want to be gracious. I want to be patient. I want to be strong. I want to be submissive. I want to be able to anticipate. I want to be ready. I want to be…

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Unthinking.

“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking. Live in silence.” ~Jalal ad-Din Rumi I don’t think I ever thought I would feel RELIEVED to say to myself   …I need to start over.   But I am, and I do.   The past…

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Talkin’ dirty…

Ah, the eternal question. Whether it is the word or the connotation, calling people names is hot for many people, not just hardcore perverts. But we all have preferences, and I’m curious…what does it for you? [poll id=”7″] Drop a note in the comment field if you wanna elaborate! I have my personal preferences… See,…

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Mama’s Family. (No, not the TV show!)

Having Family, whether the one into which you are born, the one you make, the one you stumble into, or the one that welcomes you in, is vital. I have several Families to whom I belong, and they play various roles in my life. My born family, my Hunter Family, my Theater family, my Family…

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Monogamy & Public Opinion.

A couple of  years ago, I had a rather unpleasant moment where I was on the receiving end of a roomful of laughter when I introduced myself as, among other things, monogamous. If you care to read the whole story, you can do so here. After realizing that part of the rich stew of emotions…

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HNT: Berlin Edition.

Ain’t done a HNT in forever… But yeah, I figured I’d hit one up. Hi from Berlin! I am in the midst of a pretty epic trip to 8 cities in 4 countries and it is exciting. But a bit lonely at times. Well, except when I’m being attacked by angry  Bavarian bees and bedbugs….…

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