Sister to Sister on Slate.com

A few weeks back, I received a note from Rich Juzwiak, a guy who writes for the column “How to Do It” on Slate.com. He asked me for input on a query he’d received from a Black woman concerning BDSM and racism. And lookie here, my name pops up as a good source! Gotta love…

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Emotional Safeword.

One of the toughest things to do is to have a communication style that works for all humans in a relationship. The best you can hope for, usually, is that all parties involved remain in a compassionate mindset and keep striving to do their best to meet the other as close to the middle as…

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Excerpted from “The Admiral’s Slave.”

From Chapter 2 “Molly.” “Yes, Master.” “You have not been thorough in your duties. Are you quite certain you are done?” “Is there something further you require, Master?” “Yes.” The fire’s brazen shadows played over his face, glittering within his half-closed eyes. He grasped my forearm with his damp hand and pulled me so that…

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Seven (Random) Suggestions for Submissive/Slave Types!

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order…

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Oi! I made top three in e-[lust] #51

Photo courtesy of Property of Potter Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #52? Start with the…

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The least you can do.

I recently started getting to know a man, having recently met online. Anyone who has done this square-dance knows how tough it is to establish sufficient mutual interest on a dating site and then establish, rather quickly, a pattern of contact and interaction comfortable and reasonably sustainable for all involved parties. Add to that distance…

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Conversations with The Perverted Negress: Episode 9D!

Holy Hand Grenade Of Antioch, we are STILL. AT. IT! Transparency and opacity online. Does the “Walled Garden ” of Fetlife keep people from sharing their process in a broader context? Is it safe for sadists and dominant types to bare their shit to the public? Especially when their words could very well leave all…

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Toast.

The reality of being single is gonna be different for everyone but for me, it sucks. Hard. I keep a pretty hectic schedule in part because it gives me somewhere to pour the energy I would much rather have under the hand of an owner. Until such time as that happens, we will just keep…

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Conversations with The Perverted Negress-Episode 8!

I NEED DIS SAMMITCH!!

Sex, Kink, Sexuality,  what does it all meeeeean?!? Brainnoms again with J.P. Robichaud and we try to hash out sexual satiation vs. erotic satiation. Aaaand…have moderate success with that.  On eroticising sammitches…and on Coco The Cat’s refusal to bring sammitches. Why SMs are pretty much The Shit and how much it translates preeeety damn flawlessly…

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Tell Me You Want Me.

As someone who is submissive, not only in terms of power-exchange relationships but also quite sexually submissive, I field a lot of questions about what that means. “So, do you just, like, lie there?” “You don’t care what happens to you in bed?” “Will you just do whatever they tell you?” “I assume you have…

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