Archive for October 2008
Mocking Monogamy (or, “Mo’s Emo Munch 2.0”)
I censored myself in my last post. That is because I had not worked through what I was feeling and I am protective of my emotional ebb and flow these days. As I arrived home tonight, something that happened earlier this afternoon was still tugging at the hem of my heart. So, I’ll talk about…
Read MoreMo’s Emo Munch.
Since the first Munch was held in 1992 in the South Bay, perverts have been getting together casually over coffee tea and food to shoot the shit and try to hook up. I attended a Munch today that had me in a bit of a contemplative mood. A friend was exchanging messages with their new…
Read MoreThe Knife Edge of Consent. {Not for the PC or faint of heart.}
 [disclaimer] This is a description of an impromptu scene I experienced several years ago. I post it since I had a discussion recently about scenes that rumba on the edge of non-consensual assaulted nutjob time. While there is implicit consent overall, the act described herein is not something I condone for everyone, and Might Be…
Read MoreFetLife: FTMFW! Booya!
I will blatantly pimp today. I have been a pervert for a long time.  My High School boyfriend and I liberally applied handcuffs and hogties in the bedroom. Back then, it was pilfered clothesline from his Mom’s laundry supplies. That very first relationship was, for a while, a triad. Yeah, I had it goin’ on,…
Read More“LEAVE….THE….VANILLAS…..ALONE!!!!!”
I fucking love vanilla ice cream. It is my favorite flavor. And by ice cream I mean frozen yogurt as I am violently lactose intolerant. I love frozen vanilla yogurt. There. I’ve said it! Vanilla pudding, vanilla cake….when I was a kid, I used to love adding a capfull of vanilla flavoring to my milk.…
Read MoreFLASHBACK: Bay Area Pervs in the News.
Chains and whips and leather – oh my! Berkeley Bondage, Discipline and Sadomasochism enthusiasts explore how pain and pleasure fuse together to make sex play hurt so good. Bondage Fans Bond in Berkeley By Erin Gallagher Monday, November 27, 2000 | Local professors, writers, lawyers and doctors by day abandon suits and scrubs for leather…
Read Moreteapot headtrip.
Sometimes, people who are involved in kink feel compelled try to explain to non-kink identified people why we do this kinky shit at all. Often, pervs will talk about their kink as though only other pervs do what we do, and no non kinky human can ever understand the “Depth” of service. The thing about…
Read Morewrithe a while in my ropes.
I recently read about a dominant who switches being tut-tutted by submissives who insist that they are not a “Real Dominant.” *shudder* 34 things wrong with that, but I will only address one. I also have heard dominants assert that they refuse to bottom. Should someone who is not self-identified as a top or dominant…
Read MoreFuckin’ Fundie Perverts.
I have observed, over the years, a passive-aggressive tendency among perverts to denigrate one another’s choices within the Leather Lifestyle. For me the MOST insidious behaviour is the posturing of some people who self-identify as slaves. They are the ones most often referring to themselves with the dubious title “True” slaves, and farting in the…
Read MoreDon’t talk to me ’bout “True” if you ain’t Spandau Ballet.
Oh how I bristle when people fling their titles, judgments and assessments all over the place like jizz from the willy of an epileptic kangaroo. I cannot count the times when some dumbass has spouted “Well, if you were a TRUE submissive, you would submit naturally and without hesitation!” or the equally shitastic “TRUE Masters…
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