Archive for March 2009
HNT: Blood Makes Noise.
I’ve had a mixed relationship with my body when it comes to menstruation. I started when I was 12, and was a little pissed because I had swimming class that day, and my Mom was broke, and she only used pads. I was running late but had to get money off of my already…
Read MoreWhere all the fat girls at?
I got on a bit of a riff today about there not being much variation in the BDSM and Bondage community when it comes to size and color, etc.  I know a few people who make that effort…my dear friend Mistress Heart has done a wonderful job with her Women Of Color  Photo Project. But I…
Read MoreBeards: Style Choice or Harbinger of Evil?
Maybe it is just me but I find facial hair to be tickly. I pretty much haven’t ever dated anyone with much facial hair, and in the one exception I made, there really wasn’t much kissing involved in that relationship. I saw more smooch time with this individuals boots than I ever did lip locking.  …
Read MoreSex 2.0 ~ I’m Coming.
I’ll be at the Sex 2.0 Un-Conference in May, and I’ll be hosting a dee-lightful Salon entitled… Delicious Deviance: On Flying Your Freak Flag. Perhaps you are a full blown pervert, but shy about exposing yourself online? Or maybe you are a fledgling kinkster, and unsure of how to remain true to your self while…
Read MoreNot tidy. Not polished. Still real.
Trusting myself enables me to do truly miraculous things…like trust others. Trusting others enables us to do truly miraculous things, like make pain transcendent and find new ways to access our souls. In addition to this past weekend being my second anniversary of being sober (whee!) I was in Chicago to talk about a play-style…
Read MoreNot gonna tell you yet.
I have many words at my disposal…my odd propensity for occasionally reading dictionaries and my incessant hoovering of information blended with my never-ending quest for the most apt or surreal metaphors and similes rarely leaves me at a loss. Yet this weekend I found myself at a loss several times. I was in Chicago to…
Read MoreHNT: Gettin’ Wiggy Wit’ It.
  When I was a kid I loved wearing my Mom’s wigs occasionally to play dress-up. Being the late 60’s, everybody had a few in the closet ready to go.  I wish I had the balls to wear wigs more often…it is a really fun way to play dress-up :-) Hair does so…
Read MoreWTF Wednesday: Tool Time + Play Time = FAIL.
I do not want to “Blame The Victim” in the case of a grim injury. But when the victim voluntarily let someone put an electric saw ANYWHERE NEAR their girl bits, my sympathy evaporates like rubbing alcohol poured on a sidewalk in Dubai in August. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Â …
Read MoreiPerv.
I don’t have an iPhone. I’m not connected with this company and I’m not making any money off of this. Â But I find it terribly delightful that iPhone has a kinky app. Â From their site: Â Â Need to keep your minions in line? Have an unruly co-worker that you’ve always wanted to smack…
Read MoreWhat kink is NOT. (Or: Yes, Rhianna getting beaten IS our business.)
I don’t do all that much in the celebrity gossip arena save for occasionally snarking. But a recent high-profile abuse case is straddling several areas of thought in my brains today. I know you may know this, but let me reiterate: simply because someone is masochistic, one cannot assume that they would also tolerate abuse.…
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