Leather Reign 2010…my keynote speech.

April 20, 2011 |

I’ve been invited to do keynotes at Leather / Kink events a handful of times, and as someone who doesn’t really believe in writing speeches, this always throws me into a blind panic. Yes, one of my own making but I personally challenge myself to life up to the challenge of what speeches are, IMO,…

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Accepting your submissive self.

March 7, 2011 |

Some anonymous person asked me the following on Formspring…and I felt more like talking to them rather than writing about it. Admitting my submissive side is one of the hardest things that’s happened to me. I don’t know what to think or do with myself anymore. I wonder if it’s a result of past sexual…

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Facefull of epiphany.

December 16, 2009 |

I’m a bit of a “woo-tard” in that my “woo woo” stuff….spiritual and emotionally friable shit…tends to be the one area of my life I really hesitate to share. So, because of my weird compulsion that shoves me towards greater and greater revelation, I tend to spill my guts in various ways. For better or…

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Is that a threat…?

December 8, 2009 |

In a chat on Twitter, Mark S and I were bantering about things that tops sometimes use as threats in order to incite fear into the hearts (and genitals) of those (un)lucky enough to find themselves at their (lack of) mercy. I thought about my own reaction to threats, and why they don’t usually work…

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The Negress Natters: On BDSM & Race Play.

November 20, 2009 |

Look, Ma! New Tech! Welcome to what will probably be a new regular feature on The Perverted Negress! I can talk and you can listen and I don’t have to fucking type. What’s not to LOVE?! Check out the post on race play inspired by Jaki, who sent me a message on FetLife and then…

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