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The wildness.
I got The Wildness yesterday. Voice in the head clear as day, no fucking fooling around, said to me what you need to do is get out of town for a few days. GO. Uh…kinda difficult with work with all of the writing, reading, reviewing and shit I have to do I can’t just run away from life it…
Read MoreP.P.A.? G.R.U.E.? WTF?!?
*clears throat* **taps microphone** I am doing my awesome kinky community some service by sharing about awesome stuff! First off, because it is coming up really fast, you should be all the fuck over the There is a free online discussion and you sure as hell don’t wanna miss it.  May 31, 9:00 pm EDT…
Read MoreJust holding on.
I usually do become nervous before classes. But tonight it is compounded by the hateful email, the unpleasant reactions on another site about the race play interviews, my own delicately-balanced self-esteem, and feeling more than a little lonely. It isn’t ever easy to present, and with the gnawing realization that *gasp* someone out there wishes…
Read MoreWho’s Lynching Who?
It is not the first time that someone has been whipped into enough of a frenzy to excoriate me publicly. Years ago, when I was just talking about race play among  a small group of people, and had only one class under my belt, I took this type of fuckery much more heavily. Nowadays, I am…
Read MoreSex 2.0 in the thick of it.
I’m taking a breather from the Sex 2.0 Con to chill in the hotel room I’m sharing with my buddy Sarah Dopp, who fucking rules. I just conducted a session called “Flying your Freak Flag” and it was about being out and kinky and all and I will now confess something that has gotten me…
Read MoreMarked inside.
Yesterday afternoon I was walking through the lobby of the Beyond Leather host hotel here in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Not long after teaching my second class of the day, I found myself in an intriguing exchange with a dashing salt-and-pepper haired gentleman of British extraction. He was holding my hand and pressing his lips to the back of…
Read MoreThe FatGirl Pervert Rants.
I’m fat. (For the record: I do not use / identify with the euphemism BBW (Big Beautiful Woman). I respect those who do, it just isn’t my choice. “Large,” “Plus-Sized,” “Big” are terms I occasionally use. For me, I prefer fat.) I am, unsurprisingly, ambivalent about it. There isn’t a whole lot of acceptance around…
Read MoreAnd that’s a wrap.
I want to thank the folks at Kinkfest once again. What a well-run event, and how much of an honor it is to be able to spend time there. Even if I weren’t presenting, I’d attend KinkFest. They do a smashing job. Deepest Kudos to Mike. His patience and generosity towards me were remarkable. These days, going to…
Read MoreKinkfest II: Electric Boogaloo.
Today’s class went well. Minax was FAN-fucking-TASTIC! Whatever people say about us Twins, I’ve found working with other Gemini people is amazing for me because the fluidity and spontaneity isn’t seen as flakiness or strangeness and the capacity for on-the-feet-thinking is mirrored. I am honored that she trusts me enough to gamely step up to…
Read MoreKinkfest Opening Ceremony: (or “Those 35 years as a performer paid off.)
Like a true masochist, I thought it would be cool to offer to perform at KinkFest this year. And like the sadists they must be, the good people at KinkFest booked me for the opening ceremony. Yep. I was barfulous with nerves. Add to my woes, even as I was rehearsing the song in my…
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