Last night I was fortunate to spend the evening doing a shoot for the Folsom Street Fair Poster. I’m so grateful and straight up THRILLED to have been invited to participate! Sadly, 5 days of tooth pain, a really deep root-canal and 3 days of MORE pain made it hard to struggle through. Chin up, buttercup, carry on!

The current International Ms. Leather, Lamalani, was there. As someone in the running for IMsL 2010, it was great to be able to chat a bit with her.

Being an absolute clod when it comes to makeup, I took advantage of the fact that I work with a YouTube famous makeup guru, and asked her to do my makeup before my co-worker, SparklyDevil and I left for the shoot.

I think Jackie  did an awesome job! When photographers and drag queens are telling you you’re looking pretty good, you know it is jumping off!  You should check out Beauty Chaotic, if you, like me, are hopeless with makeup OR if you are awesome with makeup and want to get the scoop on new makeup trends and stuff!   She has a YouTube channel too, so subscribe there.

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I am running for International Ms. Leather, which is an amazing gathering happening from April 15th – 18th here in foggy San Francisco!

In addition to the contest itself, which is a way for the Leather Community to come together, celebrate our pride in Leather and award the “International Ms. Leather” sash to a contestant, there are many opportunities for folks to participate in supporting the event.

And…even more AWESOME…support me as I run for the title!

There is a program book that is provided to all attendees, and if you want your business to be featured in it, there is still time.

Link to IMsL Program Book Information is here!

(PLEASE NOTE! The deadline as noted in the book DO NOT APPLY if you are supporting me as a contestant. You have until the end of this week!)

Please note! If you mention in your ad that you support my Run for International Ms. Leather you will receive 10% off of the list prices!

Even if you don’t have a business, if you just want to wish me luck, please do consider taking out a small business card sized ad! With your  “Contestant Support Discount” it is only $45 and is much appreciated!

Artwork for the programs and questions relating to layout can be sent to [ProgramBook (at) IMsL (dot) org]

General questions about dates and rates  can be sent to [advertising (at) IMsL (dot) org]

And if you missed my fundraiser, or just want to help out a little, Please click on the

Let’s get rollin’ y’all!

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Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here.

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This Isn’t Play. . . BDSM and Rape – The very basic principle that we hold so dear in BDSM play, “Nothing without consent” seems to stand in stark contrast to a very common form of play, “Rape Play”.

Half-Full – When I get my ass beaten, is it as much for the sensation as it is for the “Good girl…I knew you could take that for me.” that I want so badly at the close of the scene?

House Party Part 2 -His wife walked by at one point and he cryptically asked her to “do what she did to so-and-so earlier”. His wife disappeared behind me, but I felt her hands touching me and his cock as it entered me.

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Backseat Orgasms - We kissed lightly and without focus, both a sensual act and maddening at the same time. More, I needed more. In a blur I was on my knees on the seat, straddling his leg, his mouth latched onto one nipple and his fingers hunting for the key to undoing my dress pants.

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Are You Watching Me? – A plan of devious proportions begins to form. Before this is over with, I will have forced you into a corner…forced you to act…forced you to give ME what I want.

See also: Pleasurists #64 and 65 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Strong Slaves, Bodacious Bottoms & Ass-Kicking Submissives: Embracing Dichotomy with Mollena Williams

Where: smOdyssey

Class room is at 1725 De la Cruz, Suite #5,Santa Clara, CA

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When: Tuesday February 23, 2010

Time: 7:00pm – 9:00pm

Cost: $10.00 members of smOdyssey, Inc- $15.00 non-members

Strong Slaves, Bodacious Bottoms & Ass-Kicking Submissives:

Embracing Dichotomy

Self-identification is difficult for anyone in the alternative lifestyle. It can be even more challenging for people who see themselves as strong in their lives but desirous of submission. There is a great deal of pressure in the BDSM community to “seem submissive,” so what do you do when you see yourself as strong and fierce and yet crave mastery and domination? Believe me, you are not alone. There are many submissives and bottoms and slaves who are strong and independent and finding their way through the maze of the Kink Community! This class is an intense discussion of self-assessment personal identification, passion and power. From those who struggle with their desire to submit, to those who strive for greater strength of purpose, this class will be a wonderful opportunity to bond with the likeminded and suss out your strength in an open setting. And for tops dominants and masters, this is an excellent opportunity to get into the mind of those who are strong and embrace the dichotomy of strength in submission and freedom in slavery!

The Wolf Princess

I am fortunate. I am lucky to have “Grown up” in one of the more vibrant and open cities when it comes to alternative lifestyles. As a magnet for all manner of freaks, San Francisco is one of the crossroads: all of the “Big Name Fancy Perverts” come on through.

My favourite part of getting to know high-profile kinksters is when I realize that they are “just folks” and than their knowledge and standing and cred doesn’t make them inaccessible.  One of the women I have respected for a very long while is Lolita Wolf, and I am fortunate enough to have had our paths cross, and have been able to go from dorky fan girl to dorky fangirl and occasional fortunate recipient of her amazing attentions.

After I managed to stammer out some doofy inquiry, I wound up landing myself spot #23 on her “100 Divas” list. And never in my life have I been so glad to have been twenty-third.

You can read my account of this truly delightful encounter here…

SO, on the occasion of her birthday, I say Happy Birthday, Lolita! I also say Thank you for all you do to educate and inspire, for your warmth and honesty and sparkly smile and playful, sweet sadism.

Furthermore, I also say you can smack me around any time you damn well feel like it and I’m within striking distance.

Thou art awesome!

With Love…

#23

Been a long time, been a long time, been a long lonely lonely lonely lonely lone-leh time…

Someone who has no business telling me what to do insisted that he was tired of seeing me hiding my tits behind my arm or a convenient stuffed heffalumnp, and he wanted to “…see all that shit, goddammmit.”

And, because, under the right / wrong circumstances, I often find myself reluctantly obeying Bad, Bad People, I complied.

But, to be a smart ass, I had to add my own flair…

WARNING! B@@BS! Below the cut!! OMFG TITTIES! Big ones. You’ve been warned

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We have Art from Lochai…Bellydancing from Mistress Selina Raven…Rope Bondage and a Tea Ceremony by Madame Butterfly…penitential spankings from Sister of Perpetual Indulgence Sister Mable Syrup and Rubber Chicken Spankings from Froghole The Clown…Tea Demonstrations and rope bondage demos… beautiful harp music provided LIVE by Ms. Beth Powell…and SO much more cool shit!

Silent Auction Items that include BEAUTIFUL fetish and Bondage photography…a life coaching session, Legal help, Massage…and the chance to negotiate a scene with Mo Williams, Ms. SF Leather 2009!

You will NOT WANT TO MISS this kickass party!

I love perverted sex. In fact, some of the perverted sex I love the most is considered too fucked up for public consumption by other kinky people.

I love kinky people. The community, warts and all, is a home for me.  And like any extended weird family, we have our disagreements.

I know for a fact that there will be people reading this who are on the other side of this discussion. But when it comes to talking shit about people who don’t do sex the way we do, I have strong opinions.

When I’m in a room full of kinky people and someone says “I feel so sorry for the poor vanillas. I just don’t get how they could be so lame!” and goes on to expand on how kinky sex is the best way to have intimate relations, that “they” will “never understand” how much “better” our sex is, and I see the majority of people in the room nodding or clucking their tongues sympathetically, I realize something.

We become that which we reject when we paint people who don’t fuck the same way that we do with a broad brush.

The two best lovers I have ever had weren’t “kinky.” According to them. They were sadistic, deliciously sick, fucked up sex maniacs. They slapped me around, said all sorts of horrible shit to me, fucked my brains out, and still felt pretty good about themselves.

Neither one of them had ever taken a Kink class, set foot into a play party,  or could tell SSC from WTF.

Now you “Enlightened” perverts can pooh-pooh that and wink knowingly and say “Oh, yeah, they were kinky. They just didn’t know it yet.”

But who the fuck are you to tell people how they should identify?

Kinky sex is NOT, by default, better sex. It is for YOU if you are kinky. People who don’t do BDSM are not all  ignorant or unenlightened. (more…)

As it happened, Greenery Press’ Editrix In Chief felt that “race play” was too narrow-focused a topic for the parameters of a “Toybag Guide.” series. That book’ll have to wait! SO, there was a compromise…

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Sometimes you gotta get a little pop in the face that reminds you of what is important, and how much you take for granted.

I recently took a moment to dig up some folks I’d not heard from in a while. Social Media is a great way to soft-connect with long lost buddies. I am a pretty busy person, but online connectivity is my lifeblood, and so for that, I make time: Twitter, FaceBook, Blip, Tumblr, Gchat, YIM, MySpace (shudder) …on and on….all of these help me to feel connected, to form new friendships, and to rekindle old ones.

I’ve been spoiled. See, I’m super out out out. I have nothing to hide, and I have awesome friends and a pretty accepting family. That is mostly due to the fact that I have always been the white sheep of the lot.

I’d like to think that my friends are people who are educated, elevated, open, secure, accepting  folks.

And, by and large, I still do.

But one (former) friend declined to accept my friendship on FaceBook, because my photo would potentially cause them to have to do some explaining. They didn’t want to be associated with me. Now, the photo isn’t raunchy. But the photo does indicate that there is something about me that maybe isn’t…standard.

And the thing is, this person doesn’t want to be associated with that non-standard lifestyle.

This person…someone I met through the BDSM and Leather community… apparently no longer desires that association even peripherally in their lives.

I had a strange mix of emotions. I couldn’t pin them down. Then I thought “Well, this is insane…this person is partnered with someone else who is pretty fucking out, and THEY are affiliated with me on Facebo—”

Oops.

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