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e[Lust] #31 (Sex Blog Roundup) is out!
Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #32 ? Start with the rules, come back in January to submit…
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Come over to SexIs and meet…me!
I am deeeelighted to report my new gig as a columnist for SexIs Magazine! Please stop on by, say hi, comment, thumbs-up, and all that cool shit that strokes my ego. Hey well, who doesn’t like a good stroking now and then?
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Bubbles in Ink.
As part of the prize package for winning the Ms. San Francisco leather Contest, I was presented with a certificate for a tattoo. Well I was presented with two certificates for 2 different tattoo artists, but one certificate was jammed in with another thing and I only thought I had one. Both went unclaimed for…
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Cranial nudity.
So I’m doing a show with my awesome theater company. Crowded Fire is the shit. How much do I love them? I shaved off all of my hair for our new show, Sticky Time, which starts previews in 2 days… There’s another one with boobs in after the cut. So for the love of Ganesha,…
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When submission is a dry biscuit.
So…long-distance relationships are teh lame. We can agree they are not really all that ideal. Some times are easier than others. And there is a terrible amount of pressure on the time you can eke out to be together virtually, because by the time you have the bandwidth to talk, goddammit, it had better be connected,…
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e[Lust] #30
Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #31? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feedfor updates!…
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I need a miracle
<span style=”color: #c0c0c0;”><em>…modified from its original telling to better suit MY beliefs. </em></span> A religious man is on top of a roof during a great flood. He turns his eyes heavenward and prays fervently “Lord God, please save your humble servant. Grant me a miracle to save me!” A man comes by in a…
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HNT: Sunlight’s Stripey Stockings.
I haven’t submitted an HNT in FOREVER…I’d have to do epic research to figure out when the last one was! But I took a few pictures this afternoon. One was a special version, for a special person (waves to The Dominant Guy) but I took ths one too, suitable for public consumption. Then…
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Relocation…? Bonus.
SO, OK. Um…its like…it feels like… It feels like I’m smashing my head up against a hard rubber wall is what it feels like. I spent some time during one of my classes at the Folsom Fringe event calmly muzzling my increasingly agitated Dæmon, Bubbles. There was a discussion going on about…
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The cauterized heart.
I was nonplussed to find myself trailing along…again…trying to keep up with The  DominantGuy which is a challenge on a slow day and OMFG! WTF!! SMH… on a busy day. And I turned around and he’d vanished, again. And I’m standing there, feeling at loose ends. Waiting. Again. Much of being in service is…
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Upcoming class at the SF Citadel!
Strong Slaves, Bodacious Bottoms & Ass-Kicking Submissives: Embracing Dichotomy Tuesday, October 04, 2011 8:00 PM to 10:00 PM SF Citadel, 1277 Mission Street, SF, CA $20.00 dress code: whatever makes you happy Presented by Mollena (Mo) Williams Self-identification is difficult for anyone in the alternative lifestyle. It can be even more challenging for…
Read MoreMoving the bar on “healthy.”
I’m unplugging today, the way I often do when I feel like I’m about to short short-circuit on emotional shit.  It is post Folsom weekend.  The Dominant Guy and his wife are headed back home, and I barely held it together through the weekend as I fretted about not seeing him for an extended period of time. I’m in…
Read MoreFeeling safe in feeling human.
As a submissive – someone who prefers relationships where there is a mutually beneficial unequal power dynamic – I have done quite a bit of self-exploration around my needs and desires. And as someone who seeks out a master / slave relationship – a relationship where one human secedes power and control over themselves on…
Read MoreOne year. Today.
In one year… I have grown so much. I’ve pushed myself beyond the bounds of what I thought I needed to find joy, what I thought I found desirable, what I thought was possible. It was a year ago today I shook hands with a man who, I would very soon learn, was to…
Read MoreRegarding my friend, Lee Harrington.
As a prominent member of several of the alternative lifestyle communities in which I run, I admire Lee Harrington. As a prolific publisher, I am wowed by his tireless efforts to educate and illuminate dark places.  As a co-conspirator, I have had the pleasure of hashing out thoughts and ideas into new and amazing forms. As a friend, I…
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backlash
I’m starting to envy those who actually have time for “drop.” That whole “con-drop” thing isn’t something I’ve personally processed, it isn’t a cycle to which I’m accustomed, because I always have the next convention on the horizon. And the rare times I go over a month without a major kink event are the times…
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Service animal.
Having a memory as surreal as mine is, occasionally, amusing. I can recall some conversations with freakish clarity, be they the day before yesterday or Valentine’s Day 1993. But please don’t ask me what I ate for lunch yesterday. So this makes for fun times when I buy something for myself, totally forget, then feel…
Read MoreWin! [straight-up back-patting]
I have been invited to be a part of IvyQ. IvyQ is a rad badass LGBTQ conference, jointly hosted by a few schools of which you might have heard, like Princeton, Yale, Harvard, Penn, Brown, Columbia, Cornell and Dartmouth. I am seriously so excited and honored and…and lots of stuff. That these schools not only…
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Happy Birthday, Mr. Mercury.
I grew up choreographing routines to his music. Thumbs up to the googlegeeks for this funny and moving tribute.
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Dream.
I had class this morning at the M/S conference. 9:00 AM is a cruel injustice if you expect  night owls to be coherent. Night owls on Pacific Time are even more tortured. But I made it through. People shared some very painful stories, and asked some very wonderful questions, and it was well worth the agony of early…
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Taking it off.
So far this weekend at the Master/Slave conference…a wonderful panel discussion on being black in the Master / Slave community. A very moving discussion in the “Slaves Only” circle. SO many, many people I’d only known online, with whom I shared space, time and words today. Â A meal with new friends, people who honor me…
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Submission: better than “A gift.”
I think about Various & Sundry Things and Stuff all of the time. And I question pretty much everything. This includes a great deal of thought about kinky stuff. Since my first explorations of Leather and BDSM via books and online bulletin boards, I’ve read and listened to a great many ideas. And there are…
Read MoreThe Spaghetti Test for Tops.
My dear friend, the wise and wickedly hot Patrick, commented on a thread I’d started on Facebook. Someone has started selling little flower hankies for flagging, which I think are adorable and clever. Patrick, not a firm believer in the power of flagging, had this advice for those attempting to suss out the topworthiness of…
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