Going’s On
Sex 2.0 ~ I’m Coming.
I’ll be at the Sex 2.0 Un-Conference in May, and I’ll be hosting a dee-lightful Salon entitled… Delicious Deviance: On Flying Your Freak Flag. Perhaps you are a full blown pervert, but shy about exposing yourself online? Or maybe you are a fledgling kinkster, and unsure of how to remain true to your self while…
Read MoreNot tidy. Not polished. Still real.
Trusting myself enables me to do truly miraculous things…like trust others. Trusting others enables us to do truly miraculous things, like make pain transcendent and find new ways to access our souls. In addition to this past weekend being my second anniversary of being sober (whee!) I was in Chicago to talk about a play-style…
Read MoreNot gonna tell you yet.
I have many words at my disposal…my odd propensity for occasionally reading dictionaries and my incessant hoovering of information blended with my never-ending quest for the most apt or surreal metaphors and similes rarely leaves me at a loss. Yet this weekend I found myself at a loss several times. I was in Chicago to…
Read MoreChoking on “Shoulds.”
One of the Happier Discoveries I made about being a pervert is that lots of the idiosyncrasies, pathologies, fetishes and freakish desires that many people frown upon in the General Public are not only just fine by pervs, but are actively encouraged. You Like to boss people around? Great! Find yourself a pliant submissive and knock…
Read MorePlease. Don’t do me any favors.
I have been exchanging emails with a dominant I had approached with the intent of getting to know him a little better. I got several brushbacks. He found me “intimidating” somehow…but never elaborated on what that meant. He doesn’t play casually, because his play partners tend to “fall for him” so rather than risk that,…
Read MoreDungeon Wall-of-Blame: “Mom? Can I borrow your Collar?”
I know so many kinky folks who raise their kids in wonderful loving,  supportive homes. Homes where there just hapen to be parents who are kinky. I know a few of those people who have had their kink used against them in custody cases, and that is is a grim fact of life. As long…
Read MoreBeaten.
One of the more striking things about being struck…and struck repeatedly…is how fluid time becomes, how simple it is to take leave of your senses and allow your body’s chemical reactions to rule the day. Rarely do I do well in a BDSM scene when someone comes at me with their energy at a raging…
Read Moredigging. uncut.
I have too many. Â Identities. I do not even feel compelled to list them all lest they take on the glib slickness I am striving to escape even now. Â I do not want to be looked at. Â I need to be seen. Â And using attitude as costuming, my history as the…
Read MorePut up or shut up.
When people are first coming out into the BDSM community and feeling wallflowerish, new, awkward and like a kid on the outskirts of the cafeteria looking for a way to be closer to the “Cool” table, I often recommend that they volunteer for events. Munches are a great way to meet people, sure. BDSM and…
Read MoreI wanna be full of WIN.
VOTE FOR ME!! No, this is not a cpontest that involves it being my birthday. Not THAT kind of Shorty! Yep, leave it to me to pervert an online popularity contest. If you are a TWITTER ADDICT, or Tweetling N00b, Â please vote for me for top Kinky Twitterererer! http://www.shortyawards.com/category/kinky And hell, vote for me for…
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