From FL: 10 Second Petty Pet Peeve Rantlet.

  10 Second Petty Pet Peeve Rantlet. Note | 42 Comments · 3 Love It | 2 days ago   Yeah I know its psycho… HOWEVER! <rantlet> Because I make a point of not calling other people’s dominants / masters “Sir”/”Ma’am” in that formal subbly way? When other people do that with…um…with certain people… it makes me want to hold them…

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“Vanilla” Bigotry.

I love perverted sex. In fact, some of the perverted sex I love the most is considered too fucked up for public consumption by other kinky people. I love kinky people. The community, warts and all, is a home for me.  And like any extended weird family, we have our disagreements. I know for a…

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How to Guarantee I Won’t Date You.

I received this solicitation on a BDSM dating site. And I quote…. Master[REDACTED] Age: 37 Gender: Man Location: New Hampshire, United States Message: Hi babe :) I like what you have to say in your profile sugar :) LOL I’m a Dom looking for a slave whore to do what ever I want her to…

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Ask The Negress: Breakup Voodoo.

From Formspring… Q: When a relationship ends, what is the best approach for moving on and regaining self, things that you lost while in that relationship? A: This is so mutable. (Which is OK. Gemini’s a mutable sign. I’m good) The circumstances of the relationship have EVERYTHING to do with the breakup. How long was…

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Triple Douchebaggery, Rod Jetton Style

Ugh. Republicans. AGAIN with the sex scandals!! OK, to be fair, that is certainly a blanket statement, and I shouldn’t be so flippant. ALL public figures get themselves into sexual loggerheads, right? And hell, my ex, Jack, was a registered Republican and I’ve certainly taken a few tumbles with conservative types. Shit, I even had…

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“A Single Gal’s Manifesto” by Sheryn B.

A woman I greatly admire and who I recognized as being one of those soul-family people when we first met recently wrote a blog post on FetLife. It kind of is the zenith to my recent post’s nadir-gazing miasma, and I’ve obtained her permission to repost it here.

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Less is More.

This one is the total fault of @sexisfuncoochie. That’s what you get for asking an innocent question. OK. Um, Mo here, talking about being (mostly) mono in a poly world. And by “poly world” I mean the BDSM community as I experience it. I’ve been around a while, and I am not a shrinking violet…

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Don’t let it slide.

Too many people, overwhelmingly on the bottom / submissive side of the kink equation, have a tendency to have a “let it slide” attitude. You know. You meet someone, they are very aggressive on the first date, move too fast, but because you emerge unscathed, you “let it slide.” Someone pushes a limit, but maybe…

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Loving the flaws.

I strive to swerve online drama. I have been doing the “online thing” for a while now. Not as long as some, but longer than others. I still become honestly puzzled by people who assume that a common sexual bent will somehow filter out jerks, losers, douchebags, whiners, predators, evil beings, and just plain old…

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