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Collars & closure & owning myself.
Winner of the National Leather Association International 2012 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Award ________________________________________________________ It took six months to meet up with The Dominant Guy and do the stuff that really needed to happen in order for me to close out that account. Yep, I know that “closure†is something that is elusive, somewhat mythic, and…
Read MoreReality. Bites.
I had an inglorious day yesterday…a harried time at the airport, a plane change for what I really wished was a non-stop, and when I was finally able to rest I woke up covered in bites and an itchy mess thanks to some very small vampiric bedmates. SO, today I’m popping Benadryl non-stop to offset…
Read MoreKink & Art & Video! Wanna help?
I received an email from the delightful Madison Young – Â multi-talented, hot, and the only person who I’ve recognized based just on a photo of their delightfully presented pussy. But I digress. Anyhoo, she messaged me with a proposal to do an art piece on the invisibility of the sexuality of women of color and…
Read MorePssst Are you a reviewer? Want a free book?
I have two essays in this wonderful book! I’m cross-posting a pretty cool offer from the Editor, Ms, Taormino. Continue reading to find out how you can get a free copy of the book in exchange for a book review! Seeking Kinky Book Reviewers: by Tristan Taormino I am really, really proud of my latest…
Read MoreFive Days of Gatewood, Day Five: Watch those teeth. (NSFW)
One of the first things I learned about putting people’s junk in your face was: watch the teeth. And that’s pretty much true for most people. Some people, however, love the teeth. in this case, due to my extra perky canines and concerns about violating the integrity of the prophylactic, I avoided any vigorous biteyness. But I…
Read MoreFive Days of Gatewood, Day Four: going down. (NSFW)
YeahOKSo…there it is. I haven’t much experience with doing sex only because you’re gonna be photographing it, so I might have been nervous except I wasn’t all that nervous. I was glad I thought to bring condoms, but unfortunately, these were lubricated. Upside? the lube wasn’t of a particularly janky flavor. I did wonder if I’d look…
Read MoreFive Days of Gatewood, Day 3: Clean shave. (NSFW)
I did as thorough I job as I could with the shaving. The inexpensive disposable razors are not optimal for getting too close without mircocuts but no serious exsanguination occurred. I took care to keep everything clean…shaving foam helped. By the time I was done shaving, that moment of “UM, OK, so next is supposed to…
Read MorePorchlight Storytelling 10th Anniversary, Friday July 13th
I know, San Francisco, it sucks that I’m leaving. But fear not, I’ll be back for a victory lap! Come see me at Porchlight on Friday July 13th!
Read MoreFive Days of Gatewood, Day 2: Shaving. (NSFW)
“What I really like is being shaved…” I assumed he didn’t mean he enjoyed help with his chin stubble. I haven’t done an interactive photo shoot, and I haven’t done anything that was exceedingly explicit. But hey, what the fuck. I was 9 days away from 43 years old and adding another skeleton to my jammed-like-Mecca-during-Hajj closet…
Read MoreFive days of Gatewood: Day 1: Oracle.
I did a shoot with legendary photographer Charles Gatewood a couple of weeks ago. When we were discussing what he was working on, one of the projects on his table involved more explicit stuff than I’ve done before. And I thought about it quite thoroughly. I wondered how I would feel about having photos of…
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