When I know I don’t know.

Some things are indelible in the soft clay of my heart. Those moments of connection with someone where it isn’t about verbal communication. Where the lips the teeth the tip of the tongue aren’t in play because you look at someone and you get volumes of information instantaneously. I love this moment. I have them…

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One Pony Trick.

There are lots of kinks I’ve not fully explored.  Some because of a lack of interest, some because they are a bit esoteric or don’t really grab me or some because I just haven’t gotten around to them.   As a performer, role-playing is a fairly easy BDSM scenario for me to embrace. Pretending and…

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Race Play Interview – Part IV (Conclusion)

Well this is the wrap up! By Ganesha’s prehensile trunk and gorgeous plump belleh, this shit is EPIC. Thanks for reading along, and thank you Andrea Plaid for her remarkably open mind and thoughtful questions. If you are just jumping in, STOP. STOP RIGHT NOW! I fuckin’ mean it and go back and read the…

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Art Imtates Life.

Many years ago I took a class called “Writers Who Act.” The class was taught by the BLOODYFUCKINGAMAZING Anne Galjour. She is one of my greatest inspirations in performance, in theater, and in life, for lots of reasons into which I’ll not go into right now. In the course of this class, I started telling…

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Race Play Interview – Part I

The delightful Andrea Plaid, aka @CruelSecretary Twittered me last week, asking about Race Play. There was a bit of a heated debate on this Justin Timberlake / Ciara video, see, and she thoughtfully wanted to find a POC into kink to get their POV. Of course, my immediate reaction was “Well, sure, I’ll talk about…

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Not tidy. Not polished. Still real.

Trusting myself enables me to do truly miraculous things…like trust others. Trusting others enables us to do truly miraculous things, like make pain transcendent and find new ways to access our souls. In addition to this past weekend being my second anniversary of being sober (whee!) I was in Chicago to talk about a play-style…

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Not gonna tell you yet.

I have many words at my disposal…my odd propensity for occasionally reading dictionaries and my incessant hoovering of information blended with my never-ending quest for the most apt or surreal metaphors and similes rarely leaves me at a loss. Yet this weekend I found myself at a loss several times. I was in Chicago to…

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It would have been enough.

Since I taught a class on Tact and Diplomacy and yadda yadda and talked about shit like “gracious communication” and using “I feel” and “I think” statements, I sure as hell better practice what I preach. Or at least give it my best fucking shot. I was proud that, despite the occasional disappointment, fleeting moment…

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Please don’t hurt the…masochist???

I value the relationships I have formed within the BDSM community. It is not only that we have the commonality of kink, it is that being a pervert means that you smite the artifice of sexual Gerrymandering. I am living a charmed life in some ways. My lifestyle as an “Out Kinky Pervert” actually was…

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The new “WHO’S YOUR DADDY?” poll is up!

We all do it. Fantasize about celebrities, historical figures, the hot Pizza Delivery Guy…wonder what it would be like to engage in hot nasty horizontal mambo, vertical sweaty shenanigans, and hardcore SM DP gang-bangs, where you are plundered and used by hot ruthless tops with unflagging, demented sexual appetites. Maybe that lat one is just me…   One…

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