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From the “Best Sex Writing 2010” Blog, written by Rachel Kramer Bussel Best Sex Writing 2010 to be Published in December 2009 I’m VERY excited about Best Sex Writing 2010 and working with guest judge Esther Perel. We just finalized the Table of Contents and WOW is this book going to be amazing! Foreword by: Esther…

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Sunday Morning Sexytime Story: Special Edition!

This is a video of my inaugural performance at the Bawdy Storytelling in San Francisco. Curated by Dixie DeLaTour, the “Bawdy Storytelling“  is an awesome chance for people to share their lascivious lives and adult adventures! This is my first time sharing about some personal and controversial stuff in this context. Since it wasn’t a class,…

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“Race Play: It NOT a Game:” A dissenting viewpoint.

Most of the people who post opinions contrary to mine on race play do not take the time to articulate much. As I mention, I take into account the opinions and feeling of dissenters whenever I speak or present on the topic. I  am posting here, unedited, and with the express written permission of the original…

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Race Play Interview – Part IV (Conclusion)

Well this is the wrap up! By Ganesha’s prehensile trunk and gorgeous plump belleh, this shit is EPIC. Thanks for reading along, and thank you Andrea Plaid for her remarkably open mind and thoughtful questions. If you are just jumping in, STOP. STOP RIGHT NOW! I fuckin’ mean it and go back and read the…

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Race Play Interview – Part III

This is a continuation from Part I and Part Two, and it is hella important that you read ’em in order…so hop to it! Andrea Plaid: Next question (and we sorta touched on this): Why do you think communities of color, specifically Black communities, feel the need to police their desires…to the point they won’t…

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Race Play Interview – Part I

The delightful Andrea Plaid, aka @CruelSecretary Twittered me last week, asking about Race Play. There was a bit of a heated debate on this Justin Timberlake / Ciara video, see, and she thoughtfully wanted to find a POC into kink to get their POV. Of course, my immediate reaction was “Well, sure, I’ll talk about…

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WTF Wednesday: Black girl. Red State.

The folks of the Arizona Power Exchange group invited me, a long while back, to teach a class for them. That class is this weekend. Please keep in mind, I am used to controversy. I am, after all, one of the very VERY few people in the BDSM / Leather Community openly discussing and teaching…

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White people make better canvasses?

I had an idea about an on-your-feet exercise to conduct in today’s class on “Race Play”. Though it relies on a certain percentage of PoC being in the room. I can’t ever rely on that at the average Leather event, so we’ll see. Yesterday I was at a class that dealt with how one might…

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