HOLYCRAPAWESOME it is Episode 9C: part four of a six section extended club mix in which J.P. and I continue to dissect and chew on the multiple manifestations of transparency in Power Exchange dynamics, and in the larger world of BDSM. Transparency in interactions: what we see people doing in the kink / Leather / BDSM Confederacies has so little to do with what is actually happening for people. J.P. Talks about how some opacity can be, for some folks, a beneficial tool for maintaining some degree of personal, emotional, spiritual privacy. When is transparency too much of a risk? FOr those who are engaging in a deeply spiritual path, it may well be that a lack of transparency feeds the idea of spirituality being deeper.
What is the difference between your essential nature and your state of being? Can you exist in a state that is not aligned with your essential nature? and what happens when you do? J.P. introduces me to the Canadian concept of…er…longetivity*. Transparency in protocols, and accidental transparency, when someone tips their hand and manages to reveal deeper truths even when they don’t expect it. And just as I make some snappy analogy to having to maintain that high-performance vehicle with the good gasoline, and how that maps to d/s relationships, we hit the 30 minute mark!
Stay tuned, since we have two more installments on this dense and tasty topic! Seriously, people, that’s a three hour conversation!
Referenced in this Episode:
My own experience with having a very personal experience that was facilitated by a certain degree of singularity, opacity, distance. “On Collars and Closure & Owning Myself.”
Prime Directive, AGAIN, bitches.
*Apparently J.P. was channelling the spirit of a writer for The Harvard Crimson in 1930.