BDSM
Race-play roll-up and ruminations.
You might not have known me back when I first started talking publicly about my experiences as a Black woman, into BDSM, as a submissive /slave identified person, who did scenes that incorporated and underscored racial issues in play. If you did, you remember the flamewars, fights, humiliating rejection, condemnation and various hootenannies that fell…
Read MoreHello, Nightmare!
“This isn’t all about you. It isn’t some fantasy, none of that safeword bullshit. It is all about me, right now, and for your foreseeable future. So scream all you want. I don’t give a fuck. No one does.†This strange dark slippery sentiment crept into my head yesterday. Sitting at work combing through the…
Read MoreAre You Ready to Bid??
Thanks to my AMAZING friends, I have a FANTASTIC array of goods, services and delights for the lucky winner(s) of the basket I am offering in my run for Ms. SF Leather 2009! Seriously, this is a tribute to the Leather Community and how people will pull together for a common cause. Further, it is…
Read MoreNational and International Leather Day of Celebration In Memory of Our Mr. Marcus Hernandez
This is being re-posted at the request of Ms. Jill Carter, International Ms. Leather 1996. Thanks to Q, International Ms. Bootblack 2008, for spreading the word! Â Dear Tribe: My heart is heavy with sorrow, but my thoughts are filled with wonderful memories of a friend to most of us Mr. Marcus Hernandez who passed…
Read MoreMs. SF Leather Meet & Greet!
Come join us! And me! I will be there, hugging and shaking hands…and anything else I can grab…and you’ll be able to check out the baskets!
Read MoreI’m a Bee!
Busy and bumbling, that is:-) I am getting swamped by rehearsals for an amazing show I’m in, and you should come see it. Hell, I got peeps coming from bloody Wisconsin and Florida to see it! “Drip” is gonna be OUTSTANDING. I am in the home stretch for the Ms. SF Leather Contest!
Read MoreDon’t let it slide.
Too many people, overwhelmingly on the bottom / submissive side of the kink equation, have a tendency to have a “let it slide†attitude. You know. You meet someone, they are very aggressive on the first date, move too fast, but because you emerge unscathed, you “let it slide.†Someone pushes a limit, but maybe…
Read MoreStart Spreadin’ the News…
Got some gigs booked for NYC, people! I am deeply delighted honored and straight up wiggly at the prospect of going Home and being able to perv out with new and old friends. Here is the line-up so far…and if you know of a venue or organization whom I ought to contact and squeeze in…
Read MoreFolsom Fun!
Folsom Weekend was pretty great! The Folsom Fringe event was a great chance to meet some folks I’d only known by reputation or online, and the Fair was amazing! As it turned out, my costume was quite a draw… And despite it being pretty warm, there was a breeze all day. On an exciting note,…
Read MoreDIY Distress.
I started noticing it when I was in the late-stages of my first kink relationship. The late stage where the sex and kink die-off, you aren’t playing as often, maybe the thrill is gone or you’re in line with 2-5 other women waiting to be slotted in at the dominant’s convenience. And then it began.…
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