Musings
Dominant Savant…?
The idea of a savant – someone who exhibits a particular exemplary skill while somehow presenting with a seeming deficit in other areas – is fascinating to me. I’ve an affinity for those who are outliers, removed from the standard, separate from the mainstream. And that attraction slipped naturally into place when I came out…
Read MorePervert.
I wear this necklace in daily life, and sometimes it sparks conversation. I am quite adept at opening up conversation without creating any pressure. People who ask are curious, and I find it a lovely way to conduct outreach, even as I’m buying my favourite cupcakes, waiting for a flight overseas, or riding the 7…
Read MoreGot Rope? (NSFW)
People are often curious as to why a particular play-style, pervy activity or kind of kink appeals while others leave you cold. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I’ll tell you about why I so love bottoming to rope bondage, and submission via rope.  There are forty-two reasons, on any given day, why…
Read MoreLess is More.
Mo here, talking about being (mostly) mono in a poly world. And by “poly world†I mean the BDSM community as I experience it. I’ve been around a while, and I am not a shrinking violet when it comes to hopping around the country chilling with my Leather and Kinky and Sex Positive and Freaky Peeps. And…
Read MoreOn Blind Trust & Gut Instinct.
I’ve been around and publically doing my thing with kinky folks since I walked into my first Munch in San Francisco around 1996. Prior to that, I’d spent three years figuring out why this One Guy had managed to dig the fuck inside me and turn my head & heart all the way around. In…
Read MoreSmall Pool Problems.
In the midst of some pretty intense discussion of d/s and M/S stuff, a friend asked – Her:Â So, who IS TheDominantGuy, really? Me:Â His actual fake name is [REDACTED] Her:Â OhMyGod I met him at ___ a few years back! [Insert titillating recounting of a fairly standard smoking hot TheDominantGuy breathless encounter] He’s really hot… Me:I wouldn’t…
Read MoreMasters & Slaves & Love ~ Part One: Patrick Mulcahey’s Thoughts.
One of my friends who is also, secretly, someone I adore without boundary is Patrick Mulcahey. Not only is he one of the most thoughtful people I’ve ever met on pretty much any topic involving Leather and BDSM, he’s also someone who walks the walk and talks the talk and steps up to the plate on many issues that…
Read MoreSix Years Walking Sober.
Today, it has been six years and a day since I took my last drink. If you’re on FetLife, you can join today’s event if you’d like, and share in the virtual party :-D  It is an amazing walk thus far…bumps and bruises and loss and so many beautiful lessons I have learned. Most wonderfully, I…
Read MoreWhat You See Is NOT What You Get: or Why You Really Don’t See Me.
I love presenting on kink, teaching classes, and leading discussions. But not every day is me striding in there all “YEAH LET’S DO THIS!!†Some days, it is tough. And I feel shaky and not confident. One of the “tricks†I use when I am feeling insanely shy, my self-esteem is circling the drain or…
Read MoreAnother voice.
I don’t often feel someone else grab my insides and says “No, THIS is how you feel.” I am adept at expressing myself. Except lately, that hasn’t been the case. There are many factors, but the three I’ve been able to isolate are fear, anxiety and loneliness. The fear hit me in the face when…
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