In 14,430.9 days, I have yet to…

Have a ménage à trois that involved multiple men.

I don’t think, if memory serves (which it often doesn’t because my memory usually is behind a dumpster somewhere skulking and smoking clove cigarettes and refusing to fetch and carry anything so far as ONE synaptic gap, thankyouverymuch) that I have even had a co-topping scene that has been male-male. Multiple women, yes. Male and female, sure. But not 2 male tops doing winsome evils to me simultaneously. I have The Curiosity about playing with 2 men at once and if they were bi-curious and would spank slap and abuse me than maybe one another too….OK, um. No, I gotta stop. If I keep going I won’t get to the next thing I’ve never done, which would be to

Do a scene in a public dungeon where sexual intercourse is involved

I think the most I’ve done is been fingered, or ordered to orgasm. I certainly have been sexed up, as there are more ways to be fucked on heaven and earth than one can achieve with mere phalluses. But I’ve never been straight up fucked. I think this is a combination of being involved with people for whom that was outside of our play relationship (due to their obligations, or mine, at the time.) and a not unusual performance anxiety among lots of people when it comes to public fucking. Sure, using a strap-on would obviate that issue. which brings me to the third thing I have yet to do…

Get fucked with a strap-on.

I kinda did a mock-strap-on fucking for a scene I did years back in one of them there Good Vibrations pr0n flicks. But it was kind of a cheat because the configuration was wrong and…well the deal was never completed. Yeah. I am not sure how that has fallen by the wayside, but it has. Go figure.

Be fisted.

This is not for lack of trying. Believe, me, several women with very small hands have tried. I’m just not built for it. Those “child bearing hips?” all on the outside, baby. My pubic bones jealously guard my gooey center from manual assault.

Have a monogamous full-time D/S relationship.

Oh boy…This one stings.

My first relationship was D/S based and not contained within the context of a romantic relationship. That boundary was strenuously maintained. My last serious relationship, thought it lasted for several years, and had a D/S flavor to it by default (since that is my default dynamic) was mostly a bedroom kinky / 50’s era household traditional kind of situation. I am dismayed to think that, in the 12 years that I have been exploring BDSM, I have yet to have what I’ve sought, which is a primary monogamously oriented partner in a D/S relationship.

I hopefully have a few more days in which to catch up…I hope :-)

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  1. Eliot on December 23, 2008 at 1:16 PM

    Those are all hot scenarios and I’d like to do them all. I also want to be the one to do the strap-on fucking and the fisting. Ah, so much to do. ;)

  2. mollena on December 23, 2008 at 1:28 PM

    It is so surreal to think that stuff lots of pervs and kinksters and swingers take for granted just hasn’t hit my dance card.

    It is great to know that there is ALWAYS something more to discover!



  3. Belle Z Bub on December 23, 2008 at 2:46 PM

    I’m just always amazed and amused by the “no-fucking-allowed-in-the-dungeon” ethos in the bay area heterosexual bdsm community. It seems to be one of those unwritten rules that you dare not cross.

    • mollena on December 23, 2008 at 9:54 PM

      The few times I HAVE seen fucking at pansexual parties (there is only one party group I know of that throws het-only bashes, and I’ve not attended one, so I can’t speak to that) it is most often queer couples dong the fucking.

      I think there is a sort of “no kink at the sex party” and “no sex at the kink party” vibe. I have noticed that the kink-positive sex parties have very little play. Mostly fucking. And we know about the state of fuckosity at BDSM parties. Might be worth its own whole post…

      …but I’d be sure to never get a date again, because I would have to talk about the “Middle age male ED factor” that is, methinks, the big culprit here.

      Yay! MOAR controversy!

      • LilSally on December 24, 2008 at 8:59 PM


        • Mollena on December 24, 2008 at 9:04 PM

          Hellz yeah. I’m nested as a motherfucker!!!

  4. Andrew on December 26, 2008 at 1:24 PM

    “Do a scene in a public dungeon where sexual intercourse is involved”

    Funny you should mention that. I hear that now that the Power Exchange is closed, the Citadel is getting some of the crowd that used to go there. In particular you are likely to get your scene kibitzed by a guided tour group complete with translator. I was thinking that if that happened the next time we play there I would really like to blindfold you, tie you in some suitably vulnerable position and invite them to take it in turns fucking you.

    Your safeword is “red”. Use it now if you want to, ‘cos I think it might be hard to stop that scene once it got started.

    • mollena on December 27, 2008 at 7:38 PM

      Hey Mister Andrew! :-)

      I wish such things weren’t so risky to the health of my nether bittles, because it sounds so hot…



      • Andrew on December 27, 2008 at 11:03 PM

        Of course I would insist on condoms – that the house rule at the Citadel as well, so if I didn’t the DM would. Are there risks that would not be moderated to acceptable levels by a layer of latex?

        I didn’t actually see a safeword in your reply. Hmmm?

        • Mollena on December 27, 2008 at 11:15 PM

          :-P, Mister Smartiepants! Yes, safeword, as Pubic lice, Scabies, Herpes and HPV are readily transmitted even with correct condom use.

          And on THOSE, I’ll pass!!




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  6. dharma on December 29, 2008 at 4:51 PM

    Oh my I have all sorts of thoughts of if I were single or poly what would happen when I travel next to the left coast…