When googling images for "slave" this is the #1 hit. Yep.
You might not have known me back when I first started talking publicly about my experiences as a Black woman, into BDSM, as a submissive /slave identified person, who did scenes that incorporated and underscored racial issues in play.
If you did, you remember the flamewars, fights, humiliating rejection, condemnation and various hootenannies that fell out thereafter. I never thought, lo these many years later, not only would these issues still be discussed but actually have tracked my progress and growth as a member of the Leather Community, teacher, speaker, writer and educator. Even more now than ever.
And so it goes.
I’m thicker-skinned these days, praise Ganesha.
I often receive messages from people asking me rather broad-stroke vague questions about this VERY challenging topic.
I got a very thoughtful and provocative email from someone who asked me a lot of really good questions.
I’m going to reprint the message below, while I think about how to respond.
Feel free to post your own thoughts. But keep it respectful or I’ll pinch you. Super hard.
Here are some posts to help you catch up on some of my thoughts on the issue…
Race Play Interview – Part I
Race Play Interview – Part II
Race Play Interview – Part III
Race Play Interview Part IV
And that link over there on the right is to the new Best Sex Writing book, due out very soon. I have an essay on this very topic in there, too. Just in case I missed SOMEONE having access to my insanity.
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