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Happy Birthday, Mr. Mercury.
I grew up choreographing routines to his music. Thumbs up to the googlegeeks for this funny and moving tribute.
Read MoreDream.
I had class this morning at the M/S conference. 9:00 AM is a cruel injustice if you expect  night owls to be coherent. Night owls on Pacific Time are even more tortured. But I made it through. People shared some very painful stories, and asked some very wonderful questions, and it was well worth the agony of early…
Read MoreTaking it off.
So far this weekend at the Master/Slave conference…a wonderful panel discussion on being black in the Master / Slave community. A very moving discussion in the “Slaves Only” circle. SO many, many people I’d only known online, with whom I shared space, time and words today. Â A meal with new friends, people who honor me…
Read MoreSubmission: better than “A gift.”
I think about Various & Sundry Things and Stuff all of the time. And I question pretty much everything. This includes a great deal of thought about kinky stuff. Since my first explorations of Leather and BDSM via books and online bulletin boards, I’ve read and listened to a great many ideas. And there are…
Read MoreThe Spaghetti Test for Tops.
My dear friend, the wise and wickedly hot Patrick, commented on a thread I’d started on Facebook. Someone has started selling little flower hankies for flagging, which I think are adorable and clever. Patrick, not a firm believer in the power of flagging, had this advice for those attempting to suss out the topworthiness of…
Read MoreIgnorance = Freedom
On Sunday, September 5th, 2010, I got hit in the face with an epiphany about my journey in Leather, in slavery, that shifted my paradigm, re-routed a stifling blockage of self-pity, and enabled me to take back a part of me that felt broken and damaged. It was a massive reset. I was…
Read MoreDear Mrs. The Dominant Guy…
…yeah I know. This sock puppet thing is hilarious. Anyway, silly pseudo identities aside? Thank you. I can’t say that I ever thought I’d be riding the particular train of thought that I’ve been running today, but I realized that I was feeling a particularly profound gratitude that hit me rather unexpectedly.…
Read More…monoflexible?
Someone asked me yesterday if I still identify as monogamous. Well, yes. And to me this is obvious. However, I can see why it might look like a gray area. I’m involved with someone who is poly. So does that make me poly, too? By being in a non-monogamous relationship configuration, aren’t I giving up my identity…
Read MoreTell me why.
I’ve started to actually dig it when I hit on a communication block with TheDominantGuy. Not that I enjoy wrangling per se: I do not. But in the past 11 months or so in getting to know TDG, what has been consistent is the erosion of my defensiveness around communication blocks and his capacity to keep…
Read MoreFear factors.
So often I hear submissive / slave types say “I know my (dominant/owner/master / mistress) would never reallyharm me, and that is why I trust them.” and it made sense. It made sense but somewhere there was a loose thread in that thought that my mind picked and worried for years. Of course we need to feel completely…
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