Accepting your submissive self.

March 7, 2011 |

Some anonymous person asked me the following on Formspring…and I felt more like talking to them rather than writing about it. Admitting my submissive side is one of the hardest things that’s happened to me. I don’t know what to think or do with myself anymore. I wonder if it’s a result of past sexual…

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PSA: Munches. Are. Low-Key. On. Purpose.

March 2, 2011 |

I have now, in the past 3 days, seen 4-5 threads about newcomers complaining about the lack of kink, sex, and fuckery at Munches. If you read the history, you’ll see what happens when Munches deviate from this rule. And some folks in the PNW re-learned this lesson the hard way recently. Dating and “getting…

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Tables briefly turned.

February 27, 2011 |

Funny about service: it is one of the more complex and intimate aspects of power exchange and also one of the most basic. I am, and always have been, service oriented. Since childhood I did whatever I could to be entertaining to my parents, to be pleasing to my teachers. I found that necessary and…

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Not so goddamned fast….

February 25, 2011 |

There is little within the BDSM and Leather community circles that I take seriously serious, and that is not because I am irreverent about everything.   OK well maybe it is, a bit.   And maybe it is because fringe communities so often be takin’ so much so got-dammed seriously, I do not see that…

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No, really. I’m good.

February 22, 2011 |

I typically become profoundly uncomfortable when I cannot craft my thoughts or feelings into words. This becomes especially irritating when someone asks me how I am feeling, what I am thinking, and I am nonplussed and vacant, ready with neither quick quip nor reasoned, seasoned response. The capacity to think quickly and clearly is one…

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Woo! I’m in the SEAF!

February 20, 2011 |

Thanks to the flagrant awesomeness of photographer Michele Serchuk, this photo will be a part of the SEAF 2011. Graydancer’s pretty lucky, huh…? :-D

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Right now.

February 8, 2011 |

I certainly do not submit explicitly for delicious gourmet chocolates.   However, if TheDominantGuy wants to give me a beautiful and delicious confection, I am not going to let that impede my service.   He purchased the pink leopard-print chocolate for Mrs. TheDominantGuy. Holy crap seriously, it is really good chocolate.   This week was…is…has…

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Quiet.

February 4, 2011 |

I handed over my cell phone with a wry smile when @TheDominantGuy held out his hand for it. Wednesday morning’s drive from the airport saw me handing over my external brain. I tend to be a bit of a mess without it to let me know where I am supposed to be and what I…

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No Wrong Answers.

January 20, 2011 |

It is important for me to “get it right” when I’m explaining myself. Interestingly, I do this very well with little effort so when I feel like I’m missing the mark I have an initial “nose out of joint” moment until I remember “If they aren’t getting you, re-direct. It will come.”     This…

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