Some anonymous person asked me the following on Formspring…and I felt more like talking to them rather than writing about it.
Admitting my submissive side is one of the hardest things that’s happened to me. I don’t know what to think or do with myself anymore. I wonder if it’s a result of past sexual abuse I thought I had sorted out. think I’m depressed . Do you have any advice?
I hope it helps…hang in there.
You are Beautiful as you are.
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I want to personally thank the individual who asked this question, because it struck a cord with me being that I sometimes struggle with my submissive side. Mollena, thank you for that recording and you are the fucking bomb; I heard you speak at SPLF, and can’t wait to hear you speak again. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!
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Comment by SARAH — March 8, 2011 @ 1:00 pm
Mollena,
I cannot tell you how much it means to me that you took the time to respond to my question. I got emotional listening to you – you’ve addressed concerns I couldn’t express due to the character limit (feminism, strength, having a fulfilling life, etc). Thank you, thank you so much! I never dared to seriously talk or ask questions to subs or slaves before…something about the fear of relating too much thus getting inner-confirmation of my feelings. I keep hearing that there’s strength in submission; I’m just beginning to see why.
There’s so much I would like to express but I wouldn’t necessarily make sense; and I’m already grateful for your advice and generosity of heart. Your advice is already helping me reframe things in my mind. I truly hope others will stumble on this post and find it as inspiring and helpful as I did!
Thank you
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Comment by some anonymous person — March 8, 2011 @ 2:47 pm
I want to add my thanks to the pile. I found your blog only recently, but it’s made such an impact already. I feel like I love more on my own terms now, and that’s partly due to you. Thank you so much Mollena! you fuckin rock!
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Comment by kat — March 9, 2011 @ 12:54 am
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