Mollena

Beards: Style Choice or Harbinger of Evil?

March 17, 2009 |

Maybe it is just me but I find facial hair to be tickly. I pretty much haven’t ever dated anyone with much facial hair, and in the one exceptionÂ I made, there really wasn’t much kissing involved in that relationship. I saw more smooch time with this individuals boots than I ever did lip locking. Â …

Not tidy. Not polished. Still real.

March 16, 2009 |

Trusting myself enables me to do truly miraculous things…like trust others. Trusting others enables us to do truly miraculous things, like make pain transcendent and find new ways to access our souls. In addition to this past weekend being my second anniversary of being sober (whee!) I was in Chicago to talk about a play-style…

Not gonna tell you yet.

March 15, 2009

I have many words at my disposal…my odd propensity for occasionally reading dictionaries and my incessant hoovering of information blended with my never-ending quest for the most apt or surreal metaphors and similes rarely leaves me at a loss. Yet this weekend I found myself at a loss several times. I was in Chicago to…

WTF Wednesday: Tool Time + Play Time = FAIL.

March 11, 2009 |

I do not want to “Blame The Victim” in the case of a grim injury. But when the victim voluntarily let someone put an electric saw ANYWHERE NEAR their girl bits, my sympathy evaporates like rubbing alcohol poured on a sidewalk in Dubai in August. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Â …

iPerv.

March 9, 2009 |

I don’t have an iPhone. I’m not connected with this company and I’m not making any money off of this. Â But I find it terribly delightful that iPhone has a kinky app. Â From their site: Â Â Need to keep your minions in line? Have an unruly co-worker that you’ve always wanted to smack…

What kink is NOT. (Or: Yes, Rhianna getting beaten IS our business.)

March 5, 2009 |

I don’t do all that much in the celebrity gossip arena save for occasionally snarking. But a recent high-profile abuse case is straddling several areas of thought in my brains today. I know you may know this, but let me reiterate: simply because someone is masochistic, one cannot assume that they would also tolerate abuse.…

HNT – Still life with brand and apple.

February 26, 2009 |

The apple, which is, as we know, the Fruit Of Knowledge and Medical Intervention,Â is a Pink Lady. The brand is of my initials, MW, flowing together. It was burned onto my skin over Folsom Street Fair weekend 6 years ago. It was a way for me to take possession of myself, and to remember…

Please. Don’t do me any favors.

February 25, 2009 |

I have been exchanging emails with a dominant I had approached with the intent of getting to know him a little better. I got several brushbacks. He found me “intimidating” somehow…but never elaborated on what that meant. He doesn’t play casually, because his play partners tend to “fall for him” so rather than risk that,…

The Colored Girl Speaks.

February 23, 2009 |

This Friday night was very challenging for me, in that I was teaching a class on Race Play for the local Women’s BDSM organization, the Exiles. It is the class that makes me the most edgy, and not just for the obvious reasons. It is tough enough to present at ALL for kinksters. But I…