The Dominant Guy
My fat black ass.
Despite having no lack of photos of myself in compromising positions, every time I do a fetish shoot, or one where I’m gonna have my big old butt in the wind, I become a bit apprehensive. Yeah yeah fat is flabulous etc. But like anyone, I can be a little self-conscious when it comes to…
Read MoreA “Thank you!” and a “Bugger off!”
Dear concerned friends: Every once in a while, I will share my life, my journey, my thoughts and fears and shit with someone on a personal level who has known me for some time. Maybe for years in the Leather / BDSM community. Perhaps from outside of the community. Or a friend I’ve known…
Read MoreCapitalize this.
Capitalization’s a tricky thing. What gets caps and what does not when it comes to titles and people we have to address outside of their given names? The shit’s Byzantine, man. (I grabbed this from some grammar site where there was discussion about when pronouns are capitalized.) Names of relationships only when…
Read MoreHow he does it.
“How does he dominate you?†I was a bit taken aback by the question, indeed by the entire situation. I was in Los Angeles, on an extremely raw, wet and chilly Friday night. I was making an appearance on an internet radio show with a panel of folks that consisted of myself, two other kinky…
Read MoreWanting.
I want to do it right, whatever it is. I want to be pleasing. I want to be beautiful. I want to be gracious. I want to be patient. I want to be strong. I want to be submissive. I want to be able to anticipate. I want to be ready. I want to be…
Read MoreUnthinking.
“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking. Live in silence.†~Jalal ad-Din Rumi I don’t think I ever thought I would feel RELIEVED to say to myself …I need to start over. But I am, and I do. The past…
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