douchebaggery
Marked inside.
Yesterday afternoon I was walking through the lobby of the Beyond Leather host hotel here in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Not long after teaching my second class of the day, I found myself in an intriguing exchange with a dashing salt-and-pepper haired gentleman of British extraction. He was holding my hand and pressing his lips to the back of…
Read MoreThe FatGirl Pervert Rants.
I’m fat. (For the record: I do not use / identify with the euphemism BBW (Big Beautiful Woman). I respect those who do, it just isn’t my choice. “Large,” “Plus-Sized,” “Big” are terms I occasionally use. For me, I prefer fat.) I am, unsurprisingly, ambivalent about it. There isn’t a whole lot of acceptance around…
Read MoreWTF Wednesday: Tool Time + Play Time = FAIL.
I do not want to “Blame The Victim” in the case of a grim injury. But when the victim voluntarily let someone put an electric saw ANYWHERE NEAR their girl bits, my sympathy evaporates like rubbing alcohol poured on a sidewalk in Dubai in August. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Â …
Read MoreWhat kink is NOT. (Or: Yes, Rhianna getting beaten IS our business.)
I don’t do all that much in the celebrity gossip arena save for occasionally snarking. But a recent high-profile abuse case is straddling several areas of thought in my brains today. I know you may know this, but let me reiterate: simply because someone is masochistic, one cannot assume that they would also tolerate abuse.…
Read MorePlease. Don’t do me any favors.
I have been exchanging emails with a dominant I had approached with the intent of getting to know him a little better. I got several brushbacks. He found me “intimidating” somehow…but never elaborated on what that meant. He doesn’t play casually, because his play partners tend to “fall for him” so rather than risk that,…
Read MoreGreat Moments In Douchebaggery.
OK, this is, verbatim, from a profile on some…um. Let’s just say, a Kinky Dating Site.  About Me: I AM VERY AGERESIVE AND YOU WILL DO AS I SAY OR ELSE YOUR ASS IS MINE FOR THE SPANKING!!!!! My Ideal Person: I WANT A WOMAN WHO KNOWS HOW TO SATISFY A MAN. AND LOVES ANAL…
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