Aug 172012

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Never Pinch a Sadist: 50 Shades of PlaidIf you don’t know kink, don’t feel pressured into it. If you wonder what it is about, join Fetlife and find local event to teach you about it.

Collars & closure & owning myselfthere is triumph in realizing that your paths are diverging, repacking your shit, and moving on with dignity and respect.

The QuarryWe agreed to meet up on the weekend and go out to the quarry. It was an old, flooded quarry. I didn’t know it, but the queers had taken it over.

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The Pussy Pride Project

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“I can’t orgasm without a vibrator” So What?Embrace it. Bring it in to your partnered sex life. Be happy that you can achieve orgasm whatever way that works for you.

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Dec 072009

I love the Folsom Street Fair. I love that there is a day in the year that hundreds of thousands of freaks and gawkers run around being freaky. I love that we are given this leeway, and I love that our local government supports the Leather Community the way that it does.

I am not so sure that I am entirely positive on this recent development.

Every year there are a handful of complaints about the sexual antics at the fair. This is pretty normal. Folsom pushes boundaries, and this is something to be expected. It usually is addressed in a low-key manner, and is forgotten within a few weeks.

Today, I saw an editorial in the SF Weekly, decrying a proposal to set up “public sex tents” at Folsom. This sounded a little extreme, and I thought it was probably some sort of scare-tactic to ruffle the feathers of those who are already not fans of Folsom, and to build momentum in the increasing conservatism in San Francisco.

“Public sex tents? Now there’s an idea that should have been shot down the second it was announced from the mouth of a member of the “leather community” in response to complaints about public sex at Folsom Street Fair and its smaller sibling fair, Up Your Alley.

Instead, it appears that at least one of our local leaders (Supervisor Bevan Dufty) has agreed to take the matter “under advisement.” Since our local leaders are having trouble speaking the obvious, we will: Public sex is not appropriate at Folsom Street Fair or anywhere else. Even in San Francisco.” Continue reading »

Oct 162009

Thanks to my AMAZING friends, I have a FANTASTIC array of goods, services and delights for the lucky winner(s) of the basket I am offering in my run for Ms. SF Leather 2009!

Seriously, this is a tribute to the Leather Community and how people will pull together for a common cause. Further, it is a testament to how fortunate we are to live in a world where people of ALL walks of life believe in our vision of spiritual and sexual freedom!

Check out my SPONSOR PAGE for info on everyone listed below. These people and companies are on the cutting edge, folks. They believe in freedom, and I believe in them.

I am humbled to add their gifts to the fund to raise money for  LYRIC and the Transgender Law Center!

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Oct 112009

Busy and bumbling, that is:-)

I am getting swamped by rehearsals for an amazing show I’m in, and you should come see it. Hell, I got peeps coming from bloody Wisconsin and Florida to see it! “Drip” is gonna be OUTSTANDING.

I am in the home stretch for the Ms. SF Leather Contest! Continue reading »

Oct 062009

Got some gigs booked for NYC, people! I am deeply delighted honored and straight up wiggly at the prospect of going Home and being able to perv out with new and old friends.

Here is the line-up so far…and if you know of a venue or organization whom I ought to contact and squeeze in to this trip, give me a holler!

LSM LogoI’ll be presenting for the FANTASTIC Lesbian Sex Mafia on March19th. As of now, I’m leaning towards the class on “Playing with Taboos” HOWEVER I am open to suggestions! Continue reading »

Sep 212009
Ms SFL 2009

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The stars aligned, the event for which I was supposed to travel to Denver was canceled, I do not have rehearsal for “Drip” that evening, and miraculously I’m insane enough to do it.

*deep Breath*

I am in the running for Ms. SF Leather 2009!

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Aug 262009


I got word from the Mighty Mighty Bussel…Rachel Kramer Bussel, that is, that I am one step closer to World Domination and my goal of becoming the Oprah Winfrey of BDSM & Kink.

I am going to be a part of the “Best Sex Writing 2010” anthology!

I was nudged by Rachel a few months back to submit something on Race Play.

As you might know, there aren’t many people writing on that.

And as you can easily extrapolate, it isn’t the lightest and fluffiest of topics.

But I managed to pull it off…well, to pull SOMETHING off well enough to be interesting and not totally off the wall inaccessible.

I am inanely pleased.

Now…to continue writing that solo show. And screenplay. And HBO series pitch. And talk show idea. And those other two plays, and those other 3 books….

Oh and you can Pre-Order it Too!

Which you should do because then I can refuse to autograph it when I see you and push you into traffic ad throw my call phone at you.

Yay fame!

Aug 102009
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The Adult Baby Gangsign! photo by lawgeek (Jason Schultz)

There are plenty of fetishes that evince puzzled looks or giggles from people, and I know that some of mine fall into that category. While the average person can grasp the general concept of “Power Exchange” a more finely-tuned fetish such as racially-motivated play or reverse-anthropomorphic play can be more difficult for folks to grasp. And Ganesha knows that furries get it from all sides.

One of the more nichetastic fetishes is AB, or “Adult Baby” play.  These folks are fans of a playstyle that rarely includes the harsher aspects of BDSM, but is more abut a regressive type of play. Though it seems silly to some, I very much see the appeal of giving up ALL control, to the point of bodily functions, even, and relinquishing all of that to the hands of a nurturing, caring adult. In this scenario, generally the point is to be cared for and loved, not used or beaten down. Some folks will include an aspect of SM, in the form of castigation, or punishment, depending on the “age” that the bottom is assuming in the scene.

If you are an aficionado of this type of play, sometimes finding partners can be difficult. You have a limited range of folks for whom topping at this level of caretaking is their kink. Sometimes a professional dominant is a good approach, but that can become expensive if one truly craves that type of scene.

One gentleman in Florida connived a rather…ingenious…if deceptive, methodology for fulfilling his kink. Or so it seems to me! Continue reading »

Aug 082009


I like talking. I do it quite a bit. I even do it virtually.

A lot.

Because I enjoy it. I started talking when I was only a few months old, according to my Mom.

I’m sure it was kind of cool until she realized I. Would. Not. Stop.

But I’ve managed to do pretty well for myself being a chatty kid!

When I am invited to talk about something I pretty much always say “YesyayOMGthatissocoolwherewhenandwhatdoyouwantmetotalkaboutandforhowlongOMGOMG!!”

SO I got the call from the production team at Graydancer’s Ropecast and they booked me for a appearance on his show. It was last minute but I figured hey, I’ll do the old boy a favor, and grace him with my presence!

Um…actually, no. That’s not it at all. Continue reading »