Why racism can be hilarious.

So once upon a time, I saw someone use a racial epithet I’d never seen before. I posted about it on FetLife, and on Twitter. I learned a new racist epithet! Wanna poke one of the Native Peoples of North America in the eye?You can call ’em “Prairie Spooks!” #EvilLOL Someone replied about how dumbass that…

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Formspring Q & A: Avoiding emotional intimacy.

This question on Formspring is interesting to me, but there is no room for discussion there. I’m posting it here, first to see if I can get some bounceback from other folks who struggle with intimacy and emotional availability and secondly because I’m in “Don’t. Get. Attached!” mode with someone with whom  I recently hooked up.…

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Shoutbacks & Shoutouts & Cupcakes.

I’m always a little “!!!?!?!?!?” when people mention, quote or talk about me in their writings.  But it makes all the gut-wrenching puling moaning and late night Waaaaaaaaaambulance calls worth it, if someone else can share in it with me. My entree to sex was awesome: I was 15, he was 18, we fucked all…

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Ask The Negress: Q & A. To the submissives…

Q: What tips do you think all submissives need to hear, in your experience? from formspring.me … courtesy of Nadia West Take. Your. Time. BDSM isn’t going anywhere. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, and waiting is just fine. Plunging in headfirst is awesome, until it isn’t. Think of it this way: sure,…

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Ask The Negress: Q & A (with Kyle & Sasha!)

“When you’re feeling down or just run down, is there a favorite comfort food you tend to crave? And why?”   ~ButchtasticKyle   Have you listened to Double Meat (http://www.doublemeatpodcast.com)? I hear that it’s THE podcast for women who want to be “spit roasted” by 2 fat nerds. Also, how’s my hair look today? ~Sasha…

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Ask The Negress: Breakup Voodoo.

From Formspring… Q: When a relationship ends, what is the best approach for moving on and regaining self, things that you lost while in that relationship? A: This is so mutable. (Which is OK. Gemini’s a mutable sign. I’m good) The circumstances of the relationship have EVERYTHING to do with the breakup. How long was…

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Ask The Negress: For the New Kids on the Block.

Putting up a kink-related Q&A from Formspring.me. Wanna see your question posted on my blog? Ask me now! I respond to all of ’em and questions that nudge me or seem to resonate for folks will make it here :-) Do you have any advice for people who are new to public scenes/BDSM in general?…

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Ask The Negress: Privacy & Perversion.

This new Formspring thing is pretty amazing. I’ve been blessed with some amazing questions, and have seen some wonderful answers to questions I’ve asked. One in particular has been resonating for many people, so I wanted to post it here. I’m coming (painfully) out of my first relationship that had a true BDSM element, but…

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