Sex 2.0 in the thick of it.

I’m taking a breather from the Sex 2.0 Con to chill in the hotel room I’m sharing with my buddy Sarah Dopp, who fucking rules.

I just conducted a session called “Flying your Freak Flag” and it was about being out and kinky and all and I will now confess something that has gotten me lots of strange looks over the years: until I get up in front of the room, I don’t know what I am going to say.

I like to relax by milkbagging my roomie's pillows. What?!?!?

I like to relax by milkbagging my roomie's pillows. What?!?!?

Now, I write descriptions for these things, and so I know what people are expecting to hear. In my head I think “OK. Give them what they expect, give them what they do NOT expect…and then surprise yourself.”

That’s all.

I feel like, for me, to much planning razes the seedlings that sprout in the room as people bring their own seeds and their own organic selves to the discussion. So, I leave it open. Thankfully, my God is a writer so I let him call the shots. I feel out what people are doing internally in the moment, and run with that. it is terrifying and liberating and I love it.

I overcame my usual post-class snail-reflex and stayed to talk to people. one participant told me that reading my class description was what motivated them to come to Sex 2.0 in the first place, and THAT was humbling. Also AWESOME was the energy I got from other WOC in the room when I talked about being out and being Black. Fucking A.

I don’t wanna overthink it. I do want to say thank you for the energy and the feedback and the livetweeting.

The whole think was a bowlful of spiritual manna from which I’ll be feeding myself through long wintry nightimes of the spirit when I wonder why the fuck I put myself through this shit.

You give me so very, very much.  That is why, and that is all, and that is enough.

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  1. Freakbear on May 10, 2009 at 10:14 AM

    As someone that has had the privilege of getting to see you speak, I can say that you are one of the best presenters I have seen… I would have never guessed that you were sort of flying off the cuff because you stay on focus so well… if the comments/discussion from the audience starts to go too tangential, you reel it back to the topic in a solid, yet polite and fun way…

    I know you rocked it, cuz that is how you roll… even though you don’t know it all the time…



  2. Sascha on May 11, 2009 at 2:27 PM

    It was *such* a joy to meet you at the con.

    As I’ve told you in person, I really enjoyed your class, and I’m glad I got a chance to get a peek inside your big sexy brain.

    I know that my life has been enriched by getting to know you.


  3. RenegadeEvolution on May 11, 2009 at 5:01 PM

    You absolutely rocked. I enjoyed your session a great deal, one of the event highlights for me!

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