In a chat on Twitter, Mark S and I were bantering about things that tops sometimes use as threats in order to incite fear into the hearts (and genitals) of those (un)lucky enough to find themselves at their (lack of) mercy. I thought about my own reaction to threats, and why they don’t usually work for me, in a scene…here is a brief musing on that…
It is kind of funny, but I’m adept at reading tops and dominants when it comes to what their limits are, and how far they are willing to go with me. Especially in casual play. This is a survival mechanism, and is a really excellent way to train yourself to stay alert in a situation where you are new to one another.
All bets are off, however, once someone “has me” because then I become far more willing to go where they want me to go, and less able to deflect their will and more susceptible to their insistence.
Mercifully, (or…not) that doesn’t happen for me very often, someone solving that riddle.
How DOthey get “inside?”
The answer to that is opaque even to me, sometimes…
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That was funny as all hell. You really called his bluff. And yeah, I’ve seen people just ‘detach’ from reality in the middle of everything and lose their mind. Not so much in the same environment, but, it’s much the same. They become SO into what their doing that they don’t even realize they’ve gone too far.
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Dark moods are not unknown to me. Though I have many fewer now than I did even a year ago, and by orders of magnitude fewer today than I did when I a still actively drinking myself to death. the (up?down?)side to this is that today, I am committed to turning my heart to face these moods [...]
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I’m in Washington DC again…this time I doubt I’ll see the First Couple dance.
I am sure the Obamas keep their kinky play in the bedroom.
I am presenting a couple of classes here at the Dark Odyssey event…which should be cool.
But today…today was long. Grueling. Challenging.
But right now I get to do one of my [...]
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Fucking Twitter. A series of Tweets with PantheraPardus bounced me out of bed so that I could try to explain to myself why fucked up people turn me on.
In 1992 I was living in LA and had gone, with a few girlfriends, to see the new Tarantino flick. I didn’t know anything about it, but it was [...]
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That was funny as all hell. You really called his bluff. And yeah, I’ve seen people just ‘detach’ from reality in the middle of everything and lose their mind. Not so much in the same environment, but, it’s much the same. They become SO into what their doing that they don’t even realize they’ve gone too far.
Not a good place to be.
Soul Powers´s most recent blog moment of Zen on the net was…Updates and Stuff
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mollena Reply:
December 9th, 2009 at 1:01 pm
One of my favorite play-partners of all time, that one. Because I, too, am fucking nuts.
Thanks for stopping by!
Peace
~Mollena
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Comment by Soul Powers — December 8, 2009 @ 12:29 pm
I AM THE GREAT CORNHOLIO!
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mollena Reply:
December 9th, 2009 at 1:01 pm
Do you have TP?
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Comment by Wendy Blackheart — December 8, 2009 @ 8:00 pm