Race Play Interview – Part IV (Conclusion)

Well this is the wrap up! By Ganesha’s prehensile trunk and gorgeous plump belleh, this shit is EPIC. Thanks for reading along, and thank you Andrea Plaid for her remarkably open mind and thoughtful questions. If you are just jumping in, STOP. STOP RIGHT NOW! I fuckin’ mean it and go back and read the…

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Race Play Interview – Part III

This is a continuation from Part I and Part Two, and it is hella important that you read ’em in order…so hop to it! Andrea Plaid: Next question (and we sorta touched on this): Why do you think communities of color, specifically Black communities, feel the need to police their desires…to the point they won’t…

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Race Play Interview – Part I

The delightful Andrea Plaid, aka @CruelSecretary Twittered me last week, asking about Race Play. There was a bit of a heated debate on this Justin Timberlake / Ciara video, see, and she thoughtfully wanted to find a POC into kink to get their POV. Of course, my immediate reaction was “Well, sure, I’ll talk about…

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from COLORLINES MAGAZINE: “Playing with Race” by Daisy Hernández

Mollena Williams is gregarious, the kind of woman who makes a point of saying, “How are you today?” to the Walgreens cashier. She has a short afro and laughs easily. She works as an administrative assistant and at night, she pens her theater performances. She is also a masochist. Williams is part of San Francisco’s…

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Say It Loud…

I had occasion today to enjoy a quiet moment in a hotel room high up above the city, idly gazing upon a broad swath of terrain from the cold blue of the Bay to the fog-lapped crests of Twin Peaks. Meandering thoughts mostly disconnected…some deceptively so…were doing their best to distract me from remaining in…

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Not tidy. Not polished. Still real.

Trusting myself enables me to do truly miraculous things…like trust others. Trusting others enables us to do truly miraculous things, like make pain transcendent and find new ways to access our souls. In addition to this past weekend being my second anniversary of being sober (whee!) I was in Chicago to talk about a play-style…

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Not gonna tell you yet.

I have many words at my disposal…my odd propensity for occasionally reading dictionaries and my incessant hoovering of information blended with my never-ending quest for the most apt or surreal metaphors and similes rarely leaves me at a loss. Yet this weekend I found myself at a loss several times. I was in Chicago to…

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WTF Wednesday: Black girl. Red State.

The folks of the Arizona Power Exchange group invited me, a long while back, to teach a class for them. That class is this weekend. Please keep in mind, I am used to controversy. I am, after all, one of the very VERY few people in the BDSM / Leather Community openly discussing and teaching…

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(Mind)Fucking it up. Again.

  I just spoke with Robin, the delightful Programming Director of The Exiles.  I’m stoked to have been invited back to present a class for them!   Especially after The Incident at the last class.   Oy vey ish meir.     Um, anyway, yeah!     This is going to be the “Taboos: Playing…

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