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Just me. Just now. Just fine.
Going to Leather, Kink and BDSM events brings so much to the forefront of my mind. Most impactful are my social anxiety and the pressure I place(d) on myself to excel at everything. To be the best presenter. The most amazing bottom/sub. To be a part of one of the most memorable scenes. Once I…
Read MoreStories: Real & Surreal.
This week sees the publishing of one of my True Tales in an anthology and one of my Fairy Tales in another anthology that is being RE-published! “Leather Ever After” has some amazing and brilliant stories…and I’m gonna do a thing I rarely do and toot MY horn because I am swaggeringly proud of my…
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Hot Time! Summer…in your city?
After the first half of the summer spent running around Europe, Der Spousemeister and I get back to the funky-ass Ewe Ess of Aay and hit the road for a few events! Check me out teaching at Thunder in the Mountains or come party with us Weekend Reunion!
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“Love, Kink & Service”LONDON! June 30 – July 1, 2018
If you wanna get one of the last places in the upcoming intensive I’m conducting with the amazing, amazing support from Rowan at Making Love With God. I have wanted to be able to get into the guts and soul of Power Exchange, and have more than 60-90 minutes to do so. I am so…
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Easter Conference Recap!
I was quite honored to be invited to Germany for the Easter Conference. And very pleased that we managed to work out recording my opening speech. With much gratitude ot Beatrice Behn, half of the duo who brought the world “The Artist And The Pervert.” SO, here it is! WLT*I* Easter Conference Talk – Mollena…
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The Artist & The Pervert & The Lapsed Blogger.
Wow it has been a while…but life has many twists and turns and I am absolutely letting go of blogdeath guilt! If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, you’ve seen so much of our lives you’re probably up in my cheese extensively! SO you probably know that we spent a year consensually stalked by…
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HYENA prowls NYC.
Thanks to the brilliant TALEA Ensemble, we’ll be bringing HYENA to NYC this August. Saturday August 5th, 2017. 8:00PM, EDT, at the DiMenna Center for Classical Music. Tickets are available here. Read a little about it here.
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Counting Both Ways.
I realised I’ll be turning 10 this year. I’ll be sharing a bite of this story once again – after premiering “Hyena” in Vienna and then performing it a second time in Huddersfield England – at home in New York. After giving up on life and then finding myself energised to reject my imminent death…after…
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Emotional Safeword.
One of the toughest things to do is to have a communication style that works for all humans in a relationship. The best you can hope for, usually, is that all parties involved remain in a compassionate mindset and keep striving to do their best to meet the other as close to the middle as…
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Thanks, Britney.
“Toxic.†Yeah you can talk all you want about how pop music is artless, soulless tripe. I’d have probably sneered sanguinely along with you until late 2007. By then, I was as tired of that fucking song as anyone. I was also newly sober, deeply concerned for my mental health and running away from a…
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Nothing to Earn.
My first forays into BDSM were heavily influenced by service, and the concept that doing for others could be eroticised. Much of that was extrapolation from an initial encounter I’d had in the early 90s with a man which lead to my discovering that my feelings of submission in the sexual realm somehow spawned the…
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Chasing the demon.
Since my Spousemeister was invited to be on of the masters in residence (heehee) at the Atlantic Center for the Arts, I of course would be accompanying him on a 3-week sojourn in Florida. In Summer. No Bueno. But I realised that one of the other master tracks was for writing and hey…I’m writing a…
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An Open Letter To Mr. Idris Elba.
 Dear Mr. Elba: I admire your skill and talent as a performer. And I am thrilled to see a Black man ascend to the ranks of megastar in an industry that does everything to deny and homogenize. I do not wish to cast any shadow upon the tremendous nature of your achievements. However. You are…
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Service is the drug.
One of the most ephemeral emotional states is that of satisfaction. The sensation of pleasure. By its very nature fleeting, satiation – Â emotional satisfaction – is transitory. Emotions do not last. Persistence of vision, that illusory sensation of individual moments weaving together to form a coherent image – is not dissimilar to emotional memory, which…
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“I don’t…”
I don’t cower I don’t kneel I am never ‘less than’ I don’t beg I don’t shrink I am loud and aggressive I’m not abused I don’t take shit I push back when need be I pull hard when I have to I fight demons I feed monsters I don’t iron or scrub toilets I…
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Dont Fear Pervert Cooties.
Years back, when social media meant AOL profiles and pages on GeoCities, people relied on nicknames and handles as barriers against being discovered as a secret freak. Â Google wasn’t a thing, reverse phone-number lookups and ISP tracking were not commonly available with the click of a mouse, and anonymity was easy. Then things began to…
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Get the rest of the Essence!
Abiola Abrams is a raging powerstorm of amazingness and so when she says “I need you to write me something for Essence online!” I’m all “HELL YEAH!” You can read the article here, but it only contains one of the three tips  shared. Keep reading to see what else I had to say, under pressure,…
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Local Perversion.
Thanks to The Pleasure Chest, I’ll be sharing a lecture right here in New York on April 20th, 2016! DOMINANCE & SUBMISSION: HOT FICTION, HOTTER FACTS! WITH MOLLENA WILLIAMS-HAAS Pleasure Chest, New York UES Wednesday April 20th, 2016 8:00 pm – 10:00 pm Many of us have hot fantasies of giving over control or taking…
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Drei stücke für me!
Those who were at our wedding – or watched it on LiveStream – were able to hear the “sketches” of two parts of a piece Georg was writing in my name to commemorate our wedding. This all came about because someone asked if we were going to have his compositions in our wedding and I…
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Never Say Never.
Yeah, I do not love camping. I just…I don’t like dirt. Or insects. Or “roughing it” even in the relatively benign version of such as is offered by the Kink Camps that happen here and there across the USA. And I have, for various reasons, gone against my better judgement several times and attended them. Once,…
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*FREE* Class, Tampa / St. Pete!
Mollena Speaks on the “Prime Directive“ Date & Time: Saturday, January 09, 2016 · 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM  Location: Tampa Bay Phoenix Club 12850 91st Street North, Largo, FL 33773  @ map Cost: Free! Dress code: Street-legal/casual. Description: The Tampa Bay Phoenix Club is pleased to have Mollena presenting on the “Prime…
Read MoreBefore the end of the year and I am finished packing my owner/s suitcase. I have a particular system, as one might when packing and unpacking bits and pieces of one’s life around the country and all over Europe has fallen into the realm of the quotidian. Or at least a couple of times a…
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OKCupid Episode MDCCCXCVII: A New Hope
Many of us have been there. Doing the online dating thing. I am in the unique position of not only having perused just about all online dating formats available in the past couple of decades, but I have my roots in the primordial soup of online dating: newspaper ad dating. Before that? I’d even spent…
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Consent, Control, Compassion, and Why I am Fucking Tired of Explaining Why ‘Race Play’ is Different From Racism.
Before you read this, please consider taking a moment to see what has already been hashed out here and there on Race Play. I have gathered a list of links that should help you get some bearings on my previous forays into this topic! Back in 2009, in the throes of a sticky Twitter frenzy over Ciara…
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