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Herr Meister & Me at Playground 2015
It had been years of me trying to get up to Toronto for the Playground Sexuality Conference. After much arm twisting and bullying, Canadian style (which of course means people saying shit like “It’s be great to see you up here, eh?”) time and tides finally made it happen. I was invited to give a…
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Unless.
Two years ago today I was feeling…depressed. Laid low after a failed attempt at a book / teaching tour, I was doing that thing where you TAKE STOCK OF YOUR LIFE Â and was not sanguine about current status reports. Being back in NYC thanks to the courtesy of the generosity of The Evil Jewish Lesbian…
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The Wedding
The universe has turned everything on its head, and  my wonderful owner, Georg Friedrich will marry me on September 25th. Some folks have asked about us being registered for the wedding, and I’ve dragged my feet on it because I am shy about these kinds of things. Shyness aside, this house slave would love fun…
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Happy Birthday, and Service.
I have some brilliant and talented friends, not the least of whom is the award-winning and world-renowned photographer Michele Serchuk. She’s simply wonderful in every aspect of photography, from brainstorming themes, moods and ideas to keeping the atmosphere on-set focused yet fun. Â When she approached me about her latest project, which was a photographic series…
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Submission: rarely easy, always worth it.
One of the things I am pondering mightily is the reality of submission as it is lived vs. the hot & horny fantasy of d/s. A time ago, I went to the Center for Sex & Culture​ to see Laura Antoniou​ talk about stuff. Not many people beside myself were there, because jaded-ass San Francisco…
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International Ms Leather 2015 and me.
As International Ms Leather 2010, I weathered my own share of controversy. The IMsL 2015 has already weathered quite a bit of controversy. Those of you who have been following along on FaceBook and FetLife don’t need a rehash, but suffice to say that we’ve been waging wars on many fronts, starting with this image,…
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Life, stuff, and rope on MTV
Hey kids…it has been a while, innit? Lots happening, and some more needs to happen before i can shakedown this blog and reopen it in the way I’d like to. Some seismic shifts have pushed about my little life’s coracle and I- we – have weathered them. Some waves have been rough and once or twice,…
Read More(More than OK)Cupid.
One year ago today, a rather intriguing e-mail hit my inbox on OKCupid. One year and one week ago today, in a very demanding conversation with my Higher Power, I’d let Him know I was done with these crazy dreams and schemes I’d had. I was depressed. I was just back from a wildly unsuccessful…
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For Submissives…
Dear Submissive… Submission can, and should, be many things. From torturously difficult to lightly breezy, from profoundly sexual to sublimely spiritual. However. It outright ought not feel WRONG. If / when it does, stop. Stop and think. Stop and think and check yourself. Then protect the property. Peace. Mo
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San
Doing a class for the SF Citadel this month! And Herr Meister himself will be there. How cool is THAT??! “Dominance and Submission: Hot Fiction, Hotter Facts.” Wednesday, August 27, 2014 · 8:00 PM –10:00 PM Location: SF Citadel 181 Eddy St, San Francisco, CA Cost: $20 at door, $15 in advance- see link…
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Why I’m suspicious of those suspicious of change.
It’s the same mantra and hand wringing every few years. “THEY ARE RUINING THE SCENE!” “It was So. Much. Better in the (insert decade prior to current decade)!” When people bemoan the broader acceptance and cultural destigmatization of BDSM and scoff at the hoi polloi who ruined the glory days, I can’t help but wonder…
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“The most beautiful love story.”
Howdy from Austria. Land of schnitzel & secondhand smoke. It has been quite a stretch of time since I have blogged. Those who are connected to me virtually via Twitter or better yet Facebook have been on the receiving end of snippets and sketches and bits about the past few months. Part of me wants…
Read MoreSeven.
Seven years ago today, I was in rehab, on about six different medications to try to keep me alive but sedated so I wouldn’t have seizures. Because roughly 10% of alcoholics who stop drinking cold turkey are killed by brain seizures. I was ashamed and terrified but determined to try to live. I met my…
Read Moree[lust] #55
Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the…
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e[Lust] Digest #54
Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #55? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to…
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We interrupt this program to bring you a commercial message.
I am superfucking picky about reviewing shit, endorsing stuff, reviewing toys, permitting advertising on my site…all that shit. Why? because I’m lazy. Yep. I often do not wanna do the work it takes to vet people, places and things for inclusion on my site. (That’l likely change soon, because I need to monetize this fucker.…
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Permission to be human: granted.
I was more anxious than happy when I received an IM from The Composer. It was the middle of the night for him, and he had responded to one of my e-mails letting me know he was only up for a bit and was going to sleep once he was done working. The anxiety stemmed…
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Pride without prejudice.
Sometimes I don’t realize what I’m missing until I have it. Experiencing The Composer‘s pride & delights in my achievements brought to the fore of my thoughts today the fact that my previous dominants seemed very much to focus on making certain my achievements were put into “proper perspective.” Underscoring that I was no better than…
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Recomposition.
Skidding into the end of a year that was, on balance, more emotionally difficult than not, and rough on my relationships I held dear. Amidst the usual online dating fails, I received a message on December 19th. Respectful with a little bit of zest, acknowledging he was a bit older than I’d initially indicated I…
Read Moree-Lust sexBlogs #52
Photo courtesy of Kinketc Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #54? Start with the newly updated…
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Dear Mollena…
Dear Mollena… It is tough out here. When you are single, even tougher. You have been trying, with not much success, to be active in your search for a partner. You have heard so many stories and seen so much that dents your already battered heart. I know I am not alone, and I want…
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” 69 saker du vill veta om sex!”
When I was in Sweden earlier this year – (and suffering from a MASSIVE middle-ear infection) I was interviewed for a show that would, eventually, air on Swedish TV. Thanks to a sharp-eyed friend over in Sverige (THANK YOU JOHAN!) I just got word that it aired tonight on television and everything!
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CollarMe…WTF.
Aah, online dating. I’ve been registered with online dating sites of all stripes since the fledgling days of my tiptoed explorations into the internet, and have seen many come and go. One of the worst of the BDSM / kink slums is CollarMe.com. My profile there is maintained purely for comic relief and passive gathering of…
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Be “That Guy.”
Some people wonder what they can do when everyone else is following along one path. “I’m just one person.” they insist. “I don’t have the same ‘high-profile you have,” they tell me “nobody will listen to me.” “Yeah, I know that person / presenter / event / group / Munch is slack on shitty behaviour….or…
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