I obey hot porn stars.
So when I burble on Twitter somethin’ ’bout my crazy idea that it would be cool to run for a Leather Title, and Jiz Lee is all “Do it!” I think I have to, y’all. I mean, when a queer genderqueer gender-varient trans fag androgynous erotic model pornstar dykestar sex worker artist activist instigator sweetheart…Read More
I often see people holding forth regarding “kink orientations” in an effort to understand others. People often pose questions like: “What is up with these people who want to be told what to do?” “If I do not want to be told what to do, but I enjoy pain, am I not submissive?” “What if…Read More
White people make better canvasses?
I had an idea about an on-your-feet exercise to conduct in today’s class on “Race Play”. Though it relies on a certain percentage of PoC being in the room. I can’t ever rely on that at the average Leather event, so we’ll see. Yesterday I was at a class that dealt with how one might…Read More
Sunny with a 98% chance of masturbation.
Folsom weekend!Â Â Thank the gods that my friend Julie went to the UK this week and left me her car,Â because it is infinitely more preferable for me to panic-pack a metric-fuckton of fetish wear and saucy clothing and throw it all into the trunk of her car than it is for me to thoughtfully plan…Read More
Totally my idea. Â Totally bitchen, yo.Read More
Those who can’t score…
…..teach! Nah, it isn’t all that :-) I am apprehensive. I really like teaching. I get such overwhelming, (sometimes embarrassing) positive feedback, I shouldn’t have anything to worry about. The Fringe class is one I have previously conducted, it is only an hour, and I sure as hell can relay at least 3 solid take-away…Read More
Panic In The Dungeon.
I can only imagine the meleÃ© that an Anarchist play party would provoke. WHO would bring the CHEESE CUBES?! First Meeting of Anarchist BDSM group Thursday September 25 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM Niebyl-Proctor Marxist Library in the Red and Black Reading Room (upstairs) 6501 Telegraph in Oakland Not wheelchair-accessible; gender-neutral bathrooms are available. Contact…Read More
Scene digestion, step one.
I often write “scene reports” but have not had the opportunity to as it has been a long time since I’ve played in a scene-specific context. This is like a new re-re-restart, so i am putting a new process to the test! Rather than just give the blow-by blow (Sigh. Yeah, yeah.) I am thinking…Read More
Bitemarks? Check. Abruptly denuded pubic area? Check. Serious welts on the butt from “6 Of The Best”? Check. Goofed out bliss? Fuck yeah…!Read More
“I am already tempted to safe-word…”
This is always my thought when I am not involved in a relationship. and time goes by, and I have a play-date. Which I have tonight. The vagaries of physical tolerances comes to the fore and I wonder if, perhaps, the years of regular, hard play were an illusion. Perhaps I was fooling myself into…Read More
…Folsom Weekend Looms…
…and I am pretty stoked to have been invited to present a class at the Folsom Fringe Event. This is the…what…fourth? Fifth? time I’ve taught a class there. There are many cool folks teaching lots of cool classes. I am gonna hold forth on the not-at-all-controversial “race play” class. Yeah, I rule. Working, as I…Read More
Safe, sane and consensual (SSC) is one of several phrases used by a large section of the BDSM and sexual bondage communities to describe themselves and their philosophies who regard SSC to be a watchword for safety. The principles are that BDSM activities should be: safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks…Read More
Ain’t no fucking saints up in here.
I stay away from online drama. I have been doing the “online thing” for a while now. Not as long as some, but longer than others. I still become honestly puzzled by people who assume that a common sexual bent will somehow filter out jerks, losers, douchebags, whiners, predators, evil beings, and just plain old…Read More
No, you cannot be my “Dominate”!!!
[rant] HEY! YOU! YOU WITH THE PROFILE THAT IDENTIFIES YOU AS A “DOMINATE” MASTER!! For the LOVE of GOD!!! Or GODS!! OR Stephen MOTHERFUCKING HAWKING!!! *deep breath* Once Again!! Main Entry: domÂ·iÂ·nant Pronunciation: \-n?nt\ Function: adjective Etymology: Middle French or Latin; Middle French, from Latin dominant-, dominans, present participle of dominari Date: circa 1532 1…Read More