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In the top 3 for e-Lust’s 50th!

16 September 2013 | Comments Off on In the top 3 for e-Lust’s 50th!

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #51? Start with the newly updated rules, come back October…

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The least you can do.

05 September 2013 |

I recently started getting to know a man, having recently met online. Anyone who has done this square-dance knows how tough it is to establish sufficient mutual interest on a dating site and then establish, rather quickly, a pattern of contact and interaction comfortable and reasonably sustainable for all involved parties. Add to that distance…

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The Truth is out!

22 August 2013 |

This provided some much needed levity today!

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e-Lust #49 is out & I made the “Top 3 Posts!”

16 August 2013 | Comments Off on e-Lust #49 is out & I made the “Top 3 Posts!”

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #50? Start with the newly updated rules, come back September…

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no distance.

howling

09 August 2013 | Comments Off on howling

I remember as a kid wondering if people felt things on their insides when they had feelings in their head. Like when I was so nervous the skin on my back felt molten hot. Or so anxious my teeth would hurt and my fingers and palms thrum. Or when I stepped onstage and heard in…

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#SubmissionInSixty

08 August 2013 | Comments Off on #SubmissionInSixty

Fingers digging into the flesh of my belly. Distracted from fulminating blows from his girthy cock, my humiliation whispered “…fatass bitch. He’s using your gut to pull you onto his dick…” Embarrassed, I pushed his hands. “Stop…” Shoving my face into the bed, fingers dug deeper into my belly. “Shut up. I like it.” I…

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Dominant Savant…?

06 August 2013 | Comments Off on Dominant Savant…?

The idea of a savant – someone who exhibits a particular exemplary skill while somehow presenting with a seeming deficit in other areas – is fascinating to me. I’ve an affinity for those who are outliers, removed from the standard, separate from the mainstream. And that attraction slipped naturally into place when I came out…

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#SubmissionInSixty

03 August 2013 | Comments Off on #SubmissionInSixty

  I am trying a new thing to cudgel my brains into writing something…even if it is short. To remind myself it doesn’t have to be a big-ass project in order to be worthy. Its just a blog, right? So I decided I’d write #SubmissionInSixty – a d/s moment captured in 60 words. Exactly 60.…

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‘Breath.’

27 July 2013 | Comments Off on ‘Breath.’

I wrote a story a couple of years ago. More of a “scene report” actually, if I am being specific. It appears in the anthology ‘serving him: sexy stories of submission‘ and I was motivated to read it aloud after participating in an online author reading today! I hope you enjoy it.

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When I get annoyed, shit happens.

25 July 2013 |

Once again, I’m irritated into action. I see a lotta lotta poly types leveling-up their stamina by taking swings at monogamy, and monoamorous people. Not a fan. Mind you, there are plenty of polyfolks who do NOT engage in this bullshit. My excellent friend Cunning Minx, a big time advocate of poly, is so awesome as to…

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Pervert.

25 July 2013 | Comments Off on Pervert.

I wear this necklace in daily life, and sometimes it sparks conversation. I am quite adept at opening up conversation without creating any pressure. People who ask are curious, and I find it a lovely way to conduct outreach, even as I’m buying my favourite cupcakes, waiting for a flight overseas, or riding the 7…

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Toast.

20 July 2013 | Comments Off on Toast.

The reality of being single is gonna be different for everyone but for me, it sucks. Hard. I keep a pretty hectic schedule in part because it gives me somewhere to pour the energy I would much rather have under the hand of an owner. Until such time as that happens, we will just keep…

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Got Rope? (NSFW)

18 July 2013 | Comments Off on Got Rope? (NSFW)

People are often curious as to why a particular play-style, pervy activity or kind of kink appeals while others leave you cold. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I’ll tell you about why I so love bottoming to rope bondage, and submission via rope.  There are forty-two reasons, on any given day, why…

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e-Lust #48

16 July 2013 | Comments Off on e-Lust #48

Photo courtesy of It Girl Rag Doll Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #49? Start with…

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Less is More.

05 July 2013 |

Mo here, talking about being (mostly) mono in a poly world. And by “poly world” I mean the BDSM community as I experience it. I’ve been around a while, and I am not a shrinking violet when it comes to hopping around the country chilling with my Leather and Kinky and Sex Positive and Freaky Peeps. And…

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Tell Me You Want Me.

04 July 2013 |

As someone who is submissive, not only in terms of power-exchange relationships but also quite sexually submissive, I field a lot of questions about what that means. “So, do you just, like, lie there?” “You don’t care what happens to you in bed?” “Will you just do whatever they tell you?” “I assume you have…

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Whisper.

30 June 2013 | Comments Off on Whisper.

He leaned in close, his voice like raw silk, his breath in my ear, my breath catching in my throat as he whispered “You’ve been teasing me all night, haven’t you?”This man, a stranger who hadn’t taken strange liberties up until that point, held me transfixed with his voice alone, so intimate, so close only I…

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The Prime Directive — It’s Not Just For Starfleet

25 June 2013 |

When you look at “Power Exchange” relationships – that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet (or all aspects!) of their lives to another person – it seems obvious whose needs, wants and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the…

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Three Tips for the New Kink Explorer!

24 June 2013 | Comments Off on Three Tips for the New Kink Explorer!

I was recently asked by a publication for some quick tips and advice for couples interested in exploring BDSM to kink up bedroom play. I doubt the journalist will use the entirety of what I wrote…space constraints and all…but these three points are, I feel important for those just dipping their toes into the wild & wonderful world of BDSM. Here’s my quick-n-dirty recommendations for…

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From The Archives: “Feeling Safe in Feeling Human”

22 June 2013 | Comments Off on From The Archives: “Feeling Safe in Feeling Human”

[Originally Posted in the fall of 2011, my thinking on submission and what it means to me now has motivated me to dig back and see what it meant to me then.] “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.” ~Buddha As a submissive – someone who…

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Beware hunger.

21 June 2013 |

I know quite a bit about appetites. I have some that surprise me in their violence, and others that embarrass me in their gluttonousness. My appetite for oblivion slid me about as far as someone can go before the tipping point into lethal alcoholism. And my sexual appetites are ones I control for fear of…

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Why I am officially a Cannon Fan.

17 June 2013 |

I’m not often asked to play. I don’t wanna dive into the reasons for that, because I have a Demon who loves to chew idly on the deepest recesses of my guts by idly speculating it is because I’m a fat dowdy blowhard that no one really wants, anyway. Most of the time I don’t…

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On Blind Trust & Gut Instinct.

16 June 2013 |

I’ve been around and publically doing my thing with kinky folks since I walked into my first Munch in San Francisco around 1996.  Prior to that, I’d spent three years figuring out why this One Guy had managed to dig the fuck inside me and turn my head & heart all the way around. In…

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One month in one post and…GO!

13 June 2013 |

When one falls behind in something, it is often difficult to catch up. Falling behind, feeling overwhelmed, and then getting hit repeatedly with One Thing After Another can leave a Negress feeling…well. Like there is no way to really do justice to everything, so why bother? Well, that’s a shit attitude and the expectations I…

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National Leather Association International Awards? Why yes, I would be most honored!

12 May 2013 |

Greetings from Sweden…where I’m in bed having my ass kicked by my very first ever combo sinus-throat-ear infection. Sinus and throat infections I’ve had before but the ear thing is new and I had no idea how awful they can be. Add to that I’m in a beautiful country with awesome, kinky folks who have…

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