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  …yeah I know. This sock puppet thing is hilarious.   Anyway, silly pseudo identities aside? Thank you.   I can’t say that I ever thought I’d be riding the particular train of thought that I’ve been running today, but I realized that I was feeling a particularly profound gratitude that hit me rather unexpectedly.…

I’ve started to actually dig it when I hit on a communication block with TheDominantGuy. Not that I enjoy wrangling per se: I do not. But in the past 11 months or so in getting to know TDG, what has been consistent is the erosion of my defensiveness around communication blocks and his capacity to keep…

So often I hear submissive / slave types say “I know my (dominant/owner/master / mistress) would never reallyharm me, and that is why I trust them.” and it made sense. It made sense but somewhere there was a loose thread in that thought that my mind picked and worried for years. Of course we need to feel completely…

  Yeah so I’m making some broad sweeping off-the-cuff generalizations about some recommendations I have for dominant types. Take it or leave it. But if you leave it? You suck. So there. Nyah. Feel free to add your own off-the-cuff recommendations in the comments!   Insist on having us tell you what is really going…

She’s big tonight. Big and persistent and not backing down and I have far, far too much on my plate and mind and heart to coddle the demon. She trots back and forth in agitation. Barking an incessant litany of failures…the shit I ain’t done, ain’t never gonna do, the projects over which I’ve been…

…I don’t always get it.   Today I came face-to-face face-first with my Dark, dragged by the scruff of my neck, grasped tightly in the teeth of my own personal demon, who was tired of my whining. Well, Bubbles calls it whining. I’ll call it feeling a bit depressed. Or as I like to put it,…

There are all sorts of approaches to kinky sexytime, and negotiating them can be friggin’ awkward, even for those of us who do this shit professionally. I am delighted to share this funny short film. Not only is it sweet, sensitive, clever and hilarious, it would be a great way to broach the topic of kinky sex to someone…

SO I was on FaceBook after thumbs-upping a good article with suggestions for how to come out to non-kinky folks (I personally eschew the term “vanilla” because I feel too many perverts use it as a smeary smarmy superior pejorative) about being a pervert. And I quipped that my coming-out process usually involved my saying “Um. Have you googled me? Go…

“We are the ones who will hear,” said Phouchg, “the answer to the great question of Life….!” “The Universe…!” said Loonquawl. “And Everything…!” “Shhh,” said Loonquawl with a slight gesture. “I think Deep Thought is preparing to speak!” There was a moment’s expectant pause while panels slowly came to life on the front of the…

“I know you have many things to focus on, and that is allright. But I do not want you to lose focus on what we are working on.”   “Sometimes…most of the time, I guess, I’m OK. But. That whole ‘Don’t make someone a priority when you are just an option’ thing is gnawing at…